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post #16 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-24-2016, 06:04 AM
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Re: Men, would you cancel your plans if your wife got sick?

This isn't the hill I'd die on, to be honest.

I was very sick on Thanksgiving and my husband wanted to stay home with me but I insisted he go to his family and enjoy the holiday. Much as I appreciated the gesture, I wasn't dying and there was nothing he could do that I couldn't do myself. After much back and forth, he agreed to go. I was completely fine with it.

I just wanted to say, NEVER ignore your gut when it's screaming to you. Ever.
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post #17 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-24-2016, 06:11 AM
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Re: Men, would you cancel your plans if your wife got sick?

@UnicornCupcake I'm sorry you're sick and I hope you are feeling better soon!

Reading this thread is refreshing. It's good to know there are men out there that really care for their wives and would stay home with their sick wife. My STBXH wouldn't even help me after major surgery. He only helped a little when his parents were there visiting. He had to show them how great he was. Always putting on a show. I wasn't supposed to lift or bend, but I still had to take care of the kids, do laundry, etc. Makes me sick what I put up with.
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Re: Men, would you cancel your plans if your wife got sick?

Guy here. I have had the flu a few times in my life where I was so sick with fever I hallucinated, and other times I was just ordinary sick. Personally I just want to be left alone when I'm sick. My first thought as I read your post OP was if you're able to play on the internet posting and responding you're not that sick. I mean that honestly, in my opinion if you have the strength and consciousness to be able to function semi normal you're just ordinary sick, not debilitating sick. Unless I'm missing something I don't see why your husband shouldn't go to his Christmas party. If you couldn't get off the bathroom floor my answer would be different.

I have to add a big ole BUT here...three parties is ridicules! I myself would be ticked off if my business expected me to attend three different parties, it's easy to see how you could be resentful of him going.
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Re: Men, would you cancel your plans if your wife got sick?

Don't make any decisions, or confront him with any suspicions, etc., until you are completely recovered and are thinking rationally [ie, not fevered and wiped out physically]

Get all kinds of fluids in you.

I've don't think I've ever heard someone here say "I think he's getting advice from somewhere" without having a good reason to think that. That is a strange thing to sense. Once again, wait until you are back to full health before you act based on this impression. It could be your intuition going off, or it could be feelings of vulnerability resulting from your body combating high fever, vomiting and severe pain.
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Re: Men, would you cancel your plans if your wife got sick?

When I first saw this thread back when it was current this video popped into my mind. It took me till today to find it.
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And my instant reply to the question was "Why should I change my plans?" I think the answer is really "Are you the kind of couple who does things for each other, or are you the kind that tosses soup cans into crotches?" (I know she tossed the phone). Personally I'd at least get out the can and the pan. I'd still go to the party. I would never say "Call your Mom" But then I wouldn't trust her mom to give care.
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Re: Men, would you cancel your plans if your wife got sick?

I think in your specific case, knowing what I know now, I would want my wife to say to me to just go out, but first get her plenty of water and paracetamol. Flu is miserable and debilitating (I've had it 3 times), but generally not life threatening.

I stayed home on several occasions to mind my wife in the past and the net result was eventually I wasn't asked to do anything anymore with work colleagues as I was the guy who always stayed home. Later on in our relationship she had no problem going out herself when I was sick. Now I will go out unless she is on her deathbed.
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