Men, would you cancel your plans if your wife got sick?
It's my husband's work party tonight. They had 3 in total: 1 for the families, 1 for the spouses and the one tonight is for the men only. (He works construction so it's a pretty male dominated industry.) The spouse party was last weekend.
I am violently sick with the flu, although I'm getting better. I had a temperature of 102.4 last night and I was so achy and congested and overall miserable. I just keep puking and can't keep any food down. I was crying on and off because I was in so much pain! Temperature has reduced to 100 so I'm definitely improving and no longer feel like I should prepare myself for a hospital visit, although I am still achy, in a lot of pain and can't eat.
I have plans of my own tomorrow for a team party that I'll definitely have to cancel.
Anyway, I'm not sure if I want him to offer to stay home with me or what. Maybe I just want him to WANT to, if that makes sense? Probably not as I'm a little delirious and have re read this post 100x to makes sure it makes any sense, lol. On one hand I think he should go enjoy himself. I mean, it was the plan. But on the other I can't help, but feel sad that he'd rather sit around and drink then take care of me. I've felt so out of touch with him lately that this would have been a nice gesture. Then I realize that it would be much more fun to sit and drink with friends then be at home with a crying wife, lol. If this were to happen before we got married he'd stay by my side. I don't want to hate him if he goes. I don't want to feel guilty if he stays. I just feel so distant from each other lately that it makes me sad. He knows I feel sad. I've told him as much, although he can't quite understand why. He doesn't sense the distance (or he's not admitting to it) the way I am. Maybe this is one of those gender differences in which I feel unloved and unimportant and he thinks everything is good. I don't know. Maybe I'm manufacturing problems that aren't there. Maybe I'm just being needy. But whenever I feel needy I pull back 100x more so I really don't know what to do.
Men, what would you do? How would you want your wife to handle this?