I can. And it wouldn't automatically be a problem for me unless he specifically said that was the ONLY reason and if he sounded cruel or mean about it. I would try to determine from his words and attitude if he's just a mean person who would toss a loving wife for no other reason, didn't even talk to her about it first, or whatever.
But if it was something that was just part of an overall package of why the marriage went downhill, I hear that a lot, from both men and women.
When I first met my late husband in college, he was 18. He was 5'7" and weighed all of 135 lbs. He started working out and put on some bulk. He loved working out so much that he became an instructor at the local Jack LaLane's.
Several years later, he got into a serious life-threatening car accident. He was in the hospital for several months. His 52" chest sank to a 52" waist. He tried to get back into shape, but he also started travelling for work and simply didn't have much time.
When we finally got together, he was 42. He also weighed 220lbs. I never had a problem with his weight. Never. After we were married, he gained even more
weight, eventually tipping the scales at his max weight of 285. Yeah, he broke a few chairs in the house, lol!
Weight doesn't bother me. What bothers me is superficialness, selfishness, arrogance, controlling attitudes, manipulative anger and overall immaturity. Things that no 'diet' can cure.
The OP realizes that some people might see him as being shallow, and frankly, I'm one of those people. If I decide to get back into the dating world, I'm wondering...
...if the OP DID eventually divorce his wife, and met *me* in a few months--knowing that some people might view him as shallow-- would he honestly tell me the REAL reason he left her?