Re: What did it mean to you for your wife to take your surname when you married?
So many people look at this subject from uniquely different point of views that its hard to compare one couple to another. Religious beliefs, ethical, geographical, and even the way our culture has changed in the last 20 years or so.
My wife really liked my name, but for religious and social reasons, wanted to signal that we were creating a new family with a new legacy, since my father had passed. I was honored, but really couldn't name a single person within a 500 mile radius who did it differently in the 80s in my area.
I could see that I'd look at it differently now if I found myself single, considering marriage again, now that children are in the picture, and more 'life experience'. I would see the woman wanting to keep her name, and would understand. Hard to describe, but I would respect her need to stay connected to the things that are implied in her name.