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post #16 of 31 (permalink) Old 12-26-2016, 07:27 AM
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It's tempting, but I hear horror stories. Pain that won't go away, not able to get hard several years after the surgery, loss of sex drive, etc.

Same with tube tying, and all of the "one and done" birth control methods. It seems that something about them that science doesn't understand yet, sometimes just totally screws with the bodies sexual function and drive.

Makes me very, very wary.
Just my experience. I had a complete hysterectomy. ALL of the "plumbing" was removed including the cervix. It was the best thing I ever did for myself, aside from hiring an attorney. My sex drive actually increased. In a way, that part was worse for me because I was in a sexless marriage and STBXH couldn't have cared less. All functionality is still there, just better.

STBXH had a vasectomy and had zero issues with it. I'm glad he did it because I was genuinely afraid he'd cheat again and bring another child into the world.

Both good experiences. Everyone is different, though.
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A few months before I started dating my wife she had a hysterectomy; leaving her ovaries. No prago for her. We are both fine with it although a hummer week would have been nice.
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So they did not do paternity test before she delivered then??

Think about it this way. The cumulative failure rate of a vasectomy over three years is about 0.45%, or < 1 in 200. So it is 99.55% likely she cheated on him based on that statistic.

Finally, statistics do NOT take into accord EA's and more men have been wrongfully accused than those who are guilty fathers. I think his reaction was totally natural here. 99.45% is a high number. She should have looked into this. I think the burden of proof is (maybe unfairly) entirely upon her with such numbers.
Don't think so, it would've been 20 years or so ago.

I don't know all of the details, I got it second hand from my sister.

I get that his reaction was natural, you just have to understand what you're risking.

Birth control is pretty good but it fails.....vasectomies are pretty good but not only do they not always work.....things regenerate.

I'm of the opinion that one should know for sure before they blow up their family, especially if they have no other reason to think cheating is involved. I don't know their history in that respect.

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I am happy I had mine. That was 12 years ago. No side effects and sex is so much better not having to worry about her getting pregnant. I was sore for a few days, but nothing major. The actually procedure hurt quite a lot, but recovery was fine.

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It's tempting, but I hear horror stories. Pain that won't go away, not able to get hard several years after the surgery, loss of sex drive, etc.
Most of those stories are a story they heard from a friend who had a friend's cousin/uncle who had that problem.

There is no loss of sex drive due to the surgery, only due to starting to getting old and dropping T levels. Unless you went to one of those clinics in a storage unit then you might have a problem.

There is some discomfort from time to time, I get it 3 or 4 times a year. It's not a pain that will drop you to your knees and make you roll around like you were being shocked by a dark lord of the sith.

I've had mine for a couple years now, no loss of sex drive at all and no problems with erections either.

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like you were being shocked by a dark lord of the sith.
It kinda is... Only with Vader laughing hysterically.

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Well, Mrs. Conan couldn't have kids after our second son was born so no worries here.

I know this was an out of context and totally bvllshlt post.😉😁
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It's tempting, but I hear horror stories. Pain that won't go away, not able to get hard several years after the surgery, loss of sex drive, etc.
I am skeptical of claims that vasectomy causes ED and sex drive decrease. Considering the age at which most guys have it, sounds like just a part of getting older.

The pain is different, however, and has a well-understood mechanism. The testes continue to generate sperm and fluids. If the body does not adjust quickly enough (by breaking down and disposing of these substances) the epididymis can swell and even rupture.

Mine luckily cleared up within 8 months or so. My urologist says it usually goes away on its own but can take up to two years.
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I had it done...twice. It was absolutely painless for me.

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I have another view of this.. I would never want my husband to get one.. I opted for the hormonaly free copper IUD.. the idea a small statistical # of men live with pain after one of these - was not acceptable to me, as the wife.. If that happened it would have destroyed our sex life..

I don't know.. I was used to things being cut, stuck up me.. no big deal after a bunch of kids.. so that's what I wanted.. been happy with this choice for us.. Some of it may have to do with NOT making anything permanent either.. since I had fertility issues in the past...

Have known of a failure pregnant after a vasectomy.. also after the copper IUD.. it can happen with anything..

Always a good story when the outcome is a good one & the couple is happy with their choices though!


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Best thing I ever did. Pain wasn't bad and telling little Hitler that I got my boys cut, no more "surprise the BC failed" pregnancies, the response was priceless.
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Best thing I ever did.
The first time, when the doctor was about to inject an anesthetic he said, "here comes a little prick." A nurse snickered in the room. 😡

True story. 😫

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Best thing I ever did.
The first time, when the doctor was about to inject an anesthetic he said, "here comes a little prick." A nurse snickered in the room. 😡

True story. 😫
That's funny. Mine made fun of a tough guy cowboy type who screamed like a little girl.
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I have heard of cases of chronic pain syndrome after vasectomies. It may be a small percentage, but it happens.
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absolutely!
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