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Old 12-09-2011, 12:56 PM   #1 (permalink)
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The last time I had a health physical exam, the doctor checked my testicles for lumps. The problem is Iím very sensitive in that region and it take almost nothing to get me ďup and readyĒ if you know what I mean. I tried as hard as I could to think about something else. I tried thinking about baseball (I saw this in a movie once) but it didnít work. Biting my tongue didnít help. I think by the end of the testicle exam, I was about ĺ way erect. Since Iím a grower and not a shower, there was no hiding the fact. Doctor didnít say anything, I think we both just avoided the conversation altogether. Obviously I had no indecent thoughts about the doctor but my body just took over reacting to herÖ.handling.

Iíve got an annual physical scheduled in January and Iím worried that the same thing will happen. Any ideas how I can avoid repeating the same situation? Itís a different doctor but again a lady doctor. Has anyone else suffered the same situation before? What did you do?
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I remember it was a Woody Allen film. He was trying to last longer. His girlfriend kept asking him why he was shouting "slide,slide".
Try plastering a picture of Barbara Walters or Ethel Merman or Barbara Streissand on the lenses of your glasses.
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I'm the opposite, unless I know I'm getting sex, it just won't do it.

But then again maybe playing sports in HS made me not even feel anything during exams. Drop em, turn your head, cough, pull up your undies, next.

They had nurses, a doctor and the principal or vice principal was in the room at all time with everyone lined up in a row lol.

Or you can rub one out before the exam, just make sure to clean up very well before though
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Drop em, turn your head, cough, pull up your undies, next.
I've had that. No problems there. But drop 'em and cough is a whole lot different than a testicular exam. We're talking no contact vs. nothing short of fondling.

And can someone explaine the baseball reference? I don't get it.
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Old 12-09-2011, 01:16 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I just had mine done about a month ago. She was a pretty good looking Indian female doctor and she was pretty rough checking my boys down there. But I didn't feel anything and wasn't a big deal.

But I'm sure doctors (guys and girls) have had guys go full on hard during the exam so they're used to it. Unless you've got Godzilla living between your legs I'm pretty sure it doesn't bother them. When they start whipping out the phone cameras then I think you might start to worry a little bit lol. But then again if you're built like Godzilla in that department you might want to strike a pose to make you look good in the picture
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I've had that. No problems there. But drop 'em and cough is a whole lot different than a testicular exam. We're talking no contact vs. nothing short of fondling.

And can someone explaine the baseball reference? I don't get it.
It refers to thinking about baseball instead of sex to last longer. If this was my issue I'd just masturbate before the appointment.
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Go to a dude. Problem solved, hopefully.
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Old 12-09-2011, 01:33 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Trying thinking about Testicular Cancer.

My doctor (male) found a small lump and wasn't really concerned but wanted me to go in and get an Ultrasound. At the hospital the Ultrasound technician was a woman. I was a little nervous about how I would handle it when she started handling my junk but the thought she might find something bad was enough to keep me from getting to "into it."

P.S. Everything turned out OK, no cancer.
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It happens to me, too. I just don't worry about it. The doc has never said, "WOW!", so I guess that I'm not that special...
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Trying thinking about Testicular Cancer.

My doctor (male) found a small lump and wasn't really concerned but wanted me to go in and get an Ultrasound. At the hospital the Ultrasound technician was a woman. I was a little nervous about how I would handle it when she started handling my junk but the thought she might find something bad was enough to keep me from getting to "into it."

P.S. Everything turned out OK, no cancer.
Who know thinking about cancer could be a good thing!
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Go to a dude. Problem solved, hopefully.
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Male doctor might help. either way, doctors have dissected corpses, have seen people with the most disgusting problems you can think of, your genitals really don't bother them, hard or soft (though somewhat clean and not nasty smelling would probably be better for all involved).

Though this kind of reminds me of the times changing my son's diaper, soon as that thing was off if there is a cool breeze up it went. Didn't seem to make him uncomfortable at all.
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Go to a dude. Problem solved, hopefully.
Unless the same thing happens again, and then he's got a whole new set of problems....and way more awkwardness.


I second the notion to rub one out before the visit. Don't walk in with a loaded cannon.

If you have some cajones you could say something like, "Sorry my last girlfriend liked to play Doctor."
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This is a very normal physical reaction. Doctors are very used to it and they don't see it as being awkward at all.

If you're really that nervous- tell the doctor. Guarantee you she'll say that that it happens all the time and its no big deal. She's not reading into it, she doesn't think you want to bone her. She's a doctor and if she's any good at what she does then she'll understand that some people are just very physically reactive. Getting an erection is like sneezing in a way, its not usually a voluntary response but rather a physical reaction which men don't put much thought into, it just happens.

Heck, I've known some women who become wet during pap smears NOT because they are aroused (trust me, nothing arousing about it) but simply because its the body's natural response when we feel we are about to be violated. We don't want to be violated, but we know its going to happen and it will hurt less if we are well lubed so some (not all but some) women's subconscious will cause them to get wet to make the experience less painful.
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Though this kind of reminds me of the times changing my son's diaper, soon as that thing was off if there is a cool breeze up it went. Didn't seem to make him uncomfortable at all.
^ exactly my point!
This used to happen with my son ALL THE TIME. An infant isn't aroused, he isn't thinking "hot dog, mommy is changing my diaper again" - he's simply having a physical reaction to his environment, the same as you when the doctor touches you. You're not aroused, you're just having a physical reaction and its nothing to be embarrassed nor ashamed of.
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