Originally Posted by Middle of Everything View Post
Again apologies for the use of the term oddity. For you and HB50. I think people see that and can immediately think WTF is this guy calling me odd for? I truly meant good oddity like a LaBron James. A 6'9" 250lb man who has the quickness and agility of a man that is a foot shorter. Hes just that odd and rare. Like a unicorn. Maybe consider yourself a Unicorn. People like those.
Also I probably did a poor job in communicating how I thought you and others are "unicorns". In accepting our primordial natures. Hell in most likely having them yourselves. In reveling in the naturalness and messiness of sex.
This topic has just been a trigger for me lately as my wife is horrible in getting past or even enjoying the "messiness" of sex. Can't touch herself as its "sticky" and "icky". Semen is gross. etc etc.
So reading a man complaining about his wife being too wet down there and acting like its "icky" just kind of triggered me.
Have a good day in your Unicorn meadow.
Thanks, I had a very unicorny day.
However....I'm sorry I just don't agree that simply being a highly sexual person (including loving all the ooey gooey parts of sex) and also being a woman makes me a unicorn. I am a unicorn for other reasons, but not that one.
There are so many women who think and speak like I do. And actually a fair number of them right here at TAM!
But the majority of the men who post regularly here are not married to women like us, that's why they are here.
That does not mean we are so rare that we are impossible unicorns. Not even close.
I have come to the conclusion that there is no great forum anywhere on the internet for happy couples who have great sex lives. They just don't end up in the same place anywhere. Sure there are forums for swingers and for poly folks and stuff like that...there is also Fetlife which has a lot of sexually happy couples (including thousands of monogamous ones)...but there is no forum where happy sexually bonded couples go regularly and spill about their happiness.
They don't need to! They are too busy having fun, happy sex! What would they be saying to each other? Swapping sexy secrets? Apparently they don't feel they need to! Why would they?? Again...having too much fun having sex to wonder what others are up to.
There are people like me who want to talk about fun, good sex and swap sexy secrets...but there is no forum that is mostly about that. (Anyone know of one I haven't discovered? I'd love a link). So people like me end up at forums like this one, which at least does have a fairly robust sex topic section, but it is still mostly about problems, not about happy sex (I think just a "happy sex" thread would not be allowed in SIM section anyway.)
That's part of the problem....a happy sex forum is going to tend to draw in more creepers than they can keep up with, and the nice monogamous people will go "ew" and split.
The topic of sexuality and my own understanding of it is kind of a hobby for me. But I haven't found too many places where good conversation and sharing of ideas and experiences can happen in a non-creepy way, in that sense, TAM is one of the best. But it still has the built in self-selection population. Which leads to this conversation you and I are having, one which I and several other women have had before on TAM. Namely: Us HD women trying to explain the idea that highly sexual women are not rare unicorns. We are normal and plentiful. Many of us may not ever reveal our sexual nature to you or anyone else, as it is entirely unnecessary to do so. Me on the other hand, I like revealing it anonymously like this, because I think people do need to let go of the idea that we are unicorns.
Now if you want to call me a unicorn because I have long candy pink hair....