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post #16 of 44 (permalink) Old 12-29-2016, 02:37 PM
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Never take the easy way out.
Have some ambition.
Have a plan.
Observe successful people and their habits.
Find a mentor.
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Join AmeriCorps or the Peace Corps. Learn more about yourself while helping others.

Don't get married until you've grown up enough to know what you want out of a long term relationship.

If you don't like her parents, don't marry her, because they're a package deal. This is the biggest piece of advice I wish someone had given me.

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Become and orthodontist and get a damn good prenup. That's all you really need to know.
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Learn Spanish and emigrate to a less misandrist country.

That's what I would do if I were a young man.

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I'd say become a family law attorney but that involves a ton of debt for most people.

Avoid debt, it limits your freedom.

Floss daily.
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Become and orthodontist and get a damn good prenup. That's all you really need to know.
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I'd say become a family law attorney but that involves a ton of debt for most people.

Avoid debt, it limits your freedom.

Floss daily.
Seriously! Debt is the Devil and flossing is something so many let lapse in their 20's and 30's only to have serious expensive and painful dental problems in their 40's and 50's.

Also, understand that you are only 23. Your brain will not be fully developed for somewhere around 2 more years. Factor that into your decision making process.

Live like you're playing chess. Always be thinking at least a few moves ahead.

Have clear goals and a realistic plan to reach them.

Sleep won't be as much of an option in the future as it is now. Use your youthful energy to work hard and play hard.

Read. Big brains are sexy.

Follow the evidence where it leads and question everything.
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Dating: Spend time with women who make you happy and who you make happy. Avoid women who make you unhappy. Its amazing how many people fail to do this.

Jobs: Find a career that pays well enough to support the sort of life you want, AND which you enjoy.
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Read No More Mr. Nice Guy
Read The 5 Love Languages to understand what other people may want in a relationship.
Even after you have a gf/wife, continue to chase her.
Avoid debt.
Don't be obsessive, but work out & try to be fit, even if your gf/wife says it's not important - SHE'S LYING!
Don't put your SO on a pedestal, they will screw up & have the potential to hurt you deeply.

BEFORE getting married, if there are any kinks you either want or hate, make sure you discuss with your SO. ASK if they have any desires or dislikes in bed. Better to find out BEFORE you get married.
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If—

IF you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
' Or walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch,
if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!

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Find an older woman who will turn you into a man.

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Be careful with female friends. If you're friends with any women keep them at arms length. Don't take their advice on dating neither in general nor about anyone in particular. My husband's "friend" advised him to drop me.

Arms length means:
1. No daily social media messaging.
2. No letting them spend the night at your place.
3. No letting them expect you to pick up the tab.
4. If she gets jealous about your dating someone else, gives you advice about that relationship, in any way causes you problems ie late to a date; gossip going around, and so on, get rid of her.

5. Maintain more than one social circle so you are never dependent on one person for your social life.
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Re: What advice would you give to a young man.

Never stop learning. Always have a good book, not just fiction either, financial, self help, marriage, fitness, investing etc.

Say no to consumer debt, it is a nightmare and once you get buried so far it becomes very hard to get out from under.

Get on a strict budget that you follow and start investing yesterday, even if it is only $100 a month.

Study and learn as much as you can about the major personality disorders and how to spot red flags or to understand and work on fixing your own issues.

Lean all these things now, not after many years like most of us
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