Re: What is a submissive wife?
To me, it is not about authority at all, submissiveness does not put one spouse ahead of the other, does not make the dominint one better. In almost all partnerships it functions better when the partners each play to their strengths and in most cases one partner simply is better at setting an overall agenda and/or ensuring the goals being met follow that agenda - I think the traditional view is that men are better at this and better at taking the lead on one issue at a time and women tend to be able to juggle the details and ensure everything runs smoothly better... however that is by no means always the case.
I think sometimes some generalities can have some value - for me in my failed marriage, early on my W was happy, preferred to be the passenger but also needed her freedom to pursue her own hobbies, she was happy when I could reassure her that everything was going to plan always provided and took care of all the bllls, when there was something she wanted I took the steps to make it happen. Eventually though this stopped working, I was burning out, for whatever reason, be it attraction to me, respect, stagnancy or the way those all get exacerbated once children come into the picture, I felt I couldn't keep her happy (it should never have been my role in the first place I realize now), but when I couldn't handle the "lead" anymore I desperately wanted to step out of the way, to let her take over, to just completely submit (the exact word I always came up with when I felt the marriage was in trouble). And it was a deep, lasting change within me when I got to that point, hormonal even. I never even thought of myself as a dominant one in the marriage, or her as the submissive, but I realize now that was definitely a significant part of our dynamic, when everything runs smooth no party ever notices it, there is no chauvanism, no mistreatment, it just all clicks.