I've stated many times, I find anything pertaining to relationship dynamics fascinating. What makes them flourish and what kills them off.
I don't have a 'fat' agenda.
And I try to understand context and subjectivity. Had my ex and I participated in this study within the framework of 4 years, we both would have claimed being 'highy satisfied' with our marriage.
Fast forward another 4 years, and it was a different story.
BMI was without question part of our initial attraction. We met in a health club after all. But it had nothing to do with our downfall.
The premise of the study is not nefarious, nor is it absolute. Few things are, after all. Posted via Mobile Device
But I think you DO have a fat agenda (or rather, a thin agenda). You found the article and posted it even though we have many other active threads that are discussing weight and attraction. That didn't happen because you were interested in relationship dynamics. And you posted an article that actually does not add any value to the conversation because the trial (70 couples) did not actually measure anything that actually means anything in an objective way, with a misleading title that you put in the subject line. Come on, you had no agenda? Really? I call BS on that! Even you initial comment when you posted the thread "Hey, I just post this stuff...." is a red herring.
But I think you DO have a fat agenda (or rather, a thin agenda). You found the article and posted it even though we have many other active threads that are discussing weight and attraction. That didn't happen because you were interested in relationship dynamics. And you posted an article that actually does not add any value to the conversation because the trial (70 couples) did not actually measure anything that actually means anything in an objective way, with a misleading title that you put in the subject line. Come on, you had no agenda? Really? I call BS on that! Even you initial comment when you posted the thread "Hey, I just post this stuff...." is a red herring.
Laurae, are you surprised by this study? It intuitively makes complete sense. You would get the same answers if you did a study on height in couples. Both partners would TEND to be happier if the male is taller than the female.
It's funny really, I have a faster metabolism then wifey, so when we do let ourselves go, I end up losing weight, and she ends up gaining
So when we end up not being able to sustain our favorite positions (standing ones), I blame it on her gaining weight, and she ends up blaming it on me for losing weight. Heh, but the sex keeps us lean and strong I guess. Only time she went hardcore working out was after preggies.
And right now she's still bugging me to turn my 4 pack back into a 6 pack but I tell her that the last 2 packs are reserved for my alcohol!
Wow, I know most men would get beyotch slapped upside the head for mentioning a weight gain in their wife.
I used to be super skinny. I weighed 95lbs when I met my now ex husband. 3 pregnancies later, I am now an average size 12. And guess what? Men like curves, and I have curves. Guess who else was a size 12? Marilyn Monroe. She was so much sexier than the little twigs out walking around now. I don't care to see your ribs, thank you very much. But some men do prefer super skinny. I have a friend who thinks she can only be pretty by being as small as possible. I'm average and I get complimented a lot on my looks.
We see what we want to see and I have proof as everyone on here has had different experiences and has different preferences. There's all the proof you need. You really don't need an expert to backup what you think but if you do, you'll be able to find one.
Kobo, can't believe I'm going to show you a pic of my husband as he will keeeeel me (but in reality he looks just like all three of my children).
As you can see he is shorter than me and about 40 pounds heavier than me now but when we were married he was about 10 pounds lighter than me and still shorter than me.
Is this an anomaly that you can just write off or is the truth more so that there are millions of couples that fall outside of the norm, making it the norm?
Like I said, it depends on what you want to see.
Awwwww, you guys are sooo cute Trenton! Posted via Mobile Device
Too bad, when she has no excuse for her weight gain I'll drill it into her, same as when I do lose weight and get lazy she drills it into me. I wouldn't love her if she can't handle honesty.
But I have to learn how to be more sensitive about it from time to time, like once a while back she asked me if she looked fat and I told her something like "yeah sure, might have to drop by another shop and purchase a few harpoons on our way back home"
I was such an ass, I knew what her reaction would be but hehe... sometimes I can't help but amuse myself
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