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post #1 of 21 (permalink) Old 01-20-2017, 12:28 AM Thread Starter
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My gal does not sleep at home every night!

My and my gal just moved out with each other, for a while that's all we talked about, but she does not sleep at "our place every night". This really pisses my off to the point to were I want to end the hole relationship. It pisses me off so much it's hard for me to get and erectioj now everytime we have sex. We talked about why she does not stay at home every night, I disagree with it but I understand why. I don't ask her to do a lot but be herself and do what makes her happy. I cook clean, do her car repairs do laundry. I work 40+ hrs a week and I still make time to come home ect ect.

My job allows me to not to ever come home, only for vehicle maintenance, I thought about exploring this but I think I will only be spiteful, I know I can be self center and intend to push people away when things don't go may way. But I've managed to control this with intersection work.

What should I do? I've had it up to hear and I'm very close to doing things my way!


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Need to know just a little more about your relationship logistics, i.e. Ages, married/unmarried, years together, occupations, children, et.al.

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We talk about just everything, I'm 25 and she's 22, we are unmarried and we have been with each other for one year, I'm a private contractor and she works your average job working 24 to 40 hrs a week. And we have no kids.


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We talk about just everything, I'm 25 and she's 22, we are unmarried and we have been with each other for one year, I'm a private contractor and she works your average job working 24 to 40 hrs a week. And we have no kids.


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And as such, you both have your own separate homes/domiciles?

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And as such, you both have your own separate homes/domiciles?


At this point I have one, and that's "our place". But at this point in time she has 3.


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At this point I have one, and that's "our place". But at this point in time she has 3.


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Exactly how would you describe that arrangement? A house, apartments, with parents, friends, et.al.?

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Exactly how would you describe that arrangement? A house, apartments, with parents, friends, et.al.?


We have a roommate, he owns the house but we rent a room.


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When she isn't staying there with you, what other places might she be staying?

If so, do you ever stay at any of "her residences?"

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OP Buddy if we going to able to help you out, you have got to give us the whole story...sounds like you're pretty upset right now. You need to write out the whole story and honestly. Then can help you out

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We have a roommate, he owns the house but we rent a room.
Ugh.

It sounds a bit like a frat house. Renting a "room' I would imagine also means sharing the kitchen and bathroom and common living spaces with your roommate/landlord.

I wouldn't want those living arrangements either. I think she discovered it sucks monkey butt having to live like that and she doesn't want to do it every day.

If you two youngin's can't do it the right way - having your own place and your own privacy - then don't do it all.
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Well, you guys aren't really living together, even if she's there every night. It's not your place, and it's even less 'her' place. It's not ideal for you, but I can kind of see where she'd be coming from.

My wife didn't move in with me until we had our own place. When we started dating, I already had a house, lived alone, and had more than enough space. But had she moved in, it wouldn't have felt like 'our' place, let alone hers.

Your current arrangement, it's not even 'your' place, it's somebody else's. If she already has her own place (which may even be shared with somebody else), then that is what feels like home - not living with her boyfriend in your buddy's house.

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Ugh.

It sounds a bit like a frat house. Renting a "room' I would imagine also means sharing the kitchen and bathroom and common living spaces with your roommate/landlord.

I wouldn't want those living arrangements either. I think she discovered it sucks monkey butt having to live like that and she doesn't want to do it every day.

If you two youngin's can't do it the right way - having your own place and your own privacy - then don't do it all.


No frat house over here, all of us respects the living arrangements, there is no parting, no drugs, everybody does there part around the house, my last living arrangements were not ideal for me nor her.


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Where does she stay when she doesn't stay with you?

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Ugh.

It sounds a bit like a frat house. Renting a "room' I would imagine also means sharing the kitchen and bathroom and common living spaces with your roommate/landlord.

I wouldn't want those living arrangements either. I think she discovered it sucks monkey butt having to live like that and she doesn't want to do it every day.

If you two youngin's can't do it the right way - having your own place and your own privacy - then don't do it all.


I'm in the process of buying some land, we can afford to get our own place we thought it be best if we helped someone else payoff there mortgage.


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Where does she stay when she doesn't stay with you?


With her cousin or her with a woman she calls momma.


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