Re: Low Libido Marriage: I've Given Up!!!
If the excuses not to get into it outweigh the reasons to get into it, you might be engaged in a zer0-sum game.
Do what you can for yourself.
I have been in the same boat for years now. I used to weigh 270 at 6'5" and saw what I had become. I lost weight, grew muscles and 180'ed. This made me healthy, but my SO become even more distant. I kept blaming myself, and bent over backwards to do all of things I have seen many women suggest in this forum, and it did not work. I worked out even harder, and caused a serious health problem and got down to a dangerous weight (175 lbs). Do NOT blame yourself! It's not your fault. Have a good talk with her and let her know how you feel. The ball will be in her court. Make sure to apologize for the decades old insult/slight/forgetting to take out the trash on Apr 4th 1993 and let her know that you have apologized and it's time to move on. Any other excuses will be BS.
Live your life, and do more without her. Stop doing nice things for her, don't do her chores for her no matter how crappy the house gets. Sex is not an obligation, but is sure as sh!t is an expectation set before the vows. married man sex life is a good resource, and I highly suggest reading Athol's blog. It's helped me understand some things about myself. Also no more Mr. nice guy.