Re: Low Libido Marriage: I've Given Up!!!
Hope you don't mind posting from the female side.
H and I have been married 7.5 years. Together 12. I admit it-when we were in our early 20s-my drive wasn't as high as my h's but I NEVER ever rejected him-even if it was 3am and I had to be at work in a few hours. I never wanted him to feel bad or hurt.
Now, we're in our early 30's and the tables have turned. I want it at least 3 times at week and maybe get it once a week. It's not even the quantity-it's the quality. I ALWAYs initiate now, it's a chore to get him to be satisfied (sometimes hours)-I get rejected for any and every reason. We don't have kids.
I'm done. I'm sorry that porn is more important to him than me. I am at the point where I don't rebuff men in my life anymore.Before, I would be angry that a man would hit on me seeing my ring, but now I love it. I am not, have not and never will cheat but eventually the feeling of being wanted will take over and I will have to decide on a divorce. I do know there are men out there that would kill to have someone at home like me as opposed to porn.
I deserve better. Do you think you deserve better? At least in my situation-realizing that I deserve to feel loved and wanted helped my self esteem (which has been decimated by this at one point).