I'll bite on this thread....My husband is the type of guy who would not sleep with anyone without an emotional connection
, he has told me this many times.... he hardly chased women at all, only asking 2 out before me- he was looking for love & would choose his hand over something he didn't want to spend the rest of his life with.
He is also not the aggressive type, His chest hair I compare to the needles on a Charley Brown Christmas tree, not much there....both of these could point to a "lower test" guy.
NORMAL, just a little lower than average -not the HIGH strung wired men who are like Beasts. His drive was high enough, he did tell me he masterbated up to 3 times a day before we married. After that, he felt that was my place. Unfortunetly I fell down on the job.
Also he was never the type to fight over sex, show anger-though he was irritated with me, he tried to hide it back then, he wanted sex every day but didn't come after me, he felt I was rejecting him (and I did during our infertility spell)-this messed him up some , so half the time he waited for me to jump him -he always knew It was coming.
He also is not the type who could have sex when angry or upset , this has no appeal to him -which I learned when MY drive sky rocketed in my early 40's (you just wait Heartsbeating!!) , I would fight with him thinking he didn't desire me- I wanted him to be more LUSTY, more aggressive, so I had to make up with him or I wasn't gettin' any!! So long as we resolved things, he was good to go!
To be honest, I could have easily had angry sex during that spell, totally totally relate to men who just want to BANG! I was a raging Nympho during this time - it was a little scary as I realized , for the 1st time in my life, I wouldn't have cared about the Emotional connection, LUST was more important to me !! ON his end, his attitude was ..he is going to ride this out for as long as it lasts -finally he was getting all the attention he ever dreamed of , But he couldn't keep up !
So what did I do... I sent him to the Encron to get his Test checked! This is rather
looking back. We had to downplay why we were REALLY there , learned his levels were on the lower end of Normal -she scared the daylights out of me saying his #'s were normal for a man in his 60's! He was just 45. I worreid about that da** comment for months, thinking I am doomed, he is an old man now, all washed up and I missed his best years -out of stupidity.
So I took to reading, research, buying TEST books, and learned that SOME MEN just have lower Test most of their lives and those #'s work fine for them
, I believe my husband falls into this category, cause he is able to have sex once a day - at his age without erection helpers (he just turned 48) -anything more than that is pushing it though! Mornings are best.
The emotional connection is what drives him ...He has told me....Sex is never just "sex" to him --it is "making love".
For these types of men, if something is OFF in the relationship.... feeling rejected, unresolved anger, resentment, etc .... it would just blow the whole house down sexually. ... Kinda like Heartsbeatings husband, he needed more.