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post #166 of 170 (permalink) Old 03-19-2017, 01:52 PM
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OMG I totally agree with you! Women on dating websites go for your looks ONLY! Sorry if this bursts anybody's bubble, but I have done several experiments on dating websites with fake profiles and pictures of very masculine, hot guys. All I had to say in my initial message was "Hey...", and I would get a great response, a phone number in our first chat and a date proposal (which I would not follow up on). All within minutes into conversation.

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@Chuck71 I don't think you need to spend $300 on professional pictures. That is just my opinion. Plus you want to be honest. Professional pictures add touch ups, slim down here and there. Then when you meet what will you say? Don't lie. Just be yourself. Don't write too much on your profile either. Make it funny if you are a funny person. Give it personality . That is my take on it. When I see profiles that have too many rules I move on. Leave that for after you meet or chat online because you may miss out on someone really amazing. And do not stress. There is definitely someone out there for you. Good luck!😊

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My experience with these sites is that most women there dont really want anything. If you find one that doesnt ignore you, thats a big deal. 1:50 ratio is within the norm, and it's all about your pictures. Forget your profile, they dont read it, actually it might work against you.
You might write "I like music" and they might think "he is an immature kid". It happened to me. I posted on one of my profiles that I liked nature, and one lady told me that she will never go out with a redneck...because I liked nature. Go figure.
Proven way to get a 1:5 response, is to go to a professional photographer, and tell them what you need the pictures for and let them do the photoshoot. $300...I know!!! But you will have a date a day
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OMG I totally agree with you! Women on dating websites go for your looks ONLY! Sorry if this bursts anybody's bubble, but I have done several experiments on dating websites with fake profiles and pictures of very masculine, hot guys. All I had to say in my initial message was "Hey...", and I would get a great response, a phone number in our first chat and a date proposal (which I would not follow up on). All within minutes into conversation.

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Dude. You're a married man. You probably shouldn't be expending martial assets on either dates or on professional photographs for your dating profiles. Or throwing too much shade regarding the quality of the women you're meeting on dating sites. If you're going to cheat on your wife, at least have the class to refrain from accusing anyone else of ulterior motives, shallowness, or lack of integrity.

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OMG I totally agree with you! Women on dating websites go for your looks ONLY! Sorry if this bursts anybody's bubble, but I have done several experiments on dating websites with fake profiles and pictures of very masculine, hot guys. All I had to say in my initial message was "Hey...", and I would get a great response, a phone number in our first chat and a date proposal (which I would not follow up on). All within minutes into conversation.

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You need to find a decent dating site. Stay off the awful ones like tinder. Many women who are interested in more than just a casual relationship think far more of a mans character and personality than his looks. When I contacted my husband through a dating site, he didn't even have a photo on it as he was having trouble putting one on. I knew by what he had written and was writing that he was a good man. It was countless emails and a phone call later before I even saw what he looked like. By then I was hooked and we have now been married for 11 years.

BTW few men will give a woman who isn't physically pretty a chance, men are far more obsessed by looks than women are.
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What you have to understand is that women on dating sites get - literally - dozens of messages every day. From every guy within a hundred miles. So yours really has to stand out even to get a polite reply.

You stand a lot better chance meeting them in person. At least then you KNOW they hear what you say, even if they reject it.
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