Join Date: Nov 2012
Location: Where I lay my head
Re: Online dating - I do not understand it
I've had pretty good luck on POF and OKC. As RandomDude said, Match is a joke. But they do honor the 6 month guarantee. There are many scammers on Match.... and you get messages from the Far East and "Eastern Bloc" Europe on OKC. They're easy to spot though.
I have always said many women are on the sites for attention, many guys are on there for sex. And we all know some women trade sex for attention and some men trade attention for sex. Just the way it is.
Since my break up in November.... I did profiles again on POF, OKC, and meetme (female friend recommended it). Meetme is an obvious "attention site" why.... the females actually tell me this.
I recommend profiles on those three and..... sit back. I get plenty of emails, initiated by the female. Would I date all that initiated, oh he!! no.... but you have a much better chance of it being a legit conversation than you emailed 50 a day and they play tag with all their emails.
OKC has a Quickmatch.... but you have to be a paying member to see who it is..... unless she clicked the star button as well. Then you're told you are a match. In other words click the star as much as you can.... you'd be surprised. Sometimes.... you will get an email saying xxx likes you, but that's semi-rare.
POF has a MeetMe section.... if the female says yes and even maybe, you get an email about who it is. You can view her profile without being signed in. If you are new meat.... you will have 50 yes within the first week. There are quality people on POF and OKC but there also are the dregs of society too. Free site, whatcha expect?
And..... this time around I tried Zoosk. It is $30/month or $60/3 month but like Match... they have additional upgrades they want to nickel and dime you to death on. Now you don't have to pay (like Match) but gosh darn, you can't reply to emails! Now for the spin.... Zoosk has an upgrade, $10/month where guys can email females who are not paying members. About 50% of the females on Zoosk aren't paying. When you just get a wink wink (free) from a female.... and you reply.... 90% of the time you get crickets. They're not paying member and you haven't done the $10 upgrade. To me... if a female wants to meet a quality guy, swipe that debit card just like we do.
Zoosk has a Views section..... you can see who viewed you. Even though you don't click on their profile, Zoosk notifies the female that you viewed her too. I have been on there for two months and I'm going to cancel in a few days. I have 500 views.... and if I went through each one.... within one hour, half of the 500 have viewed me again. No other way to explain it.
I have a very short profile, mostly because everyone window shops. See the pic, like the pic, email. We all know guys do that but the females do as well. On POF I have want kids and have none.... over 50% of my emails are from women 40 and up who does not want kids or "can't." So much for reading profiles huh?
Hope this helps......
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