So, back in this online dating game on a couple of pay sites, but I do not get it. I have a good detailed profile of me, 10 - 12 recent pics, and I message the women I am interested in. I read their profile and then I e-mail them a question or comment on something I read within their profile. Over the past 3 weeks, must have e-mailed 50 women, two replied. One took two weeks to reply, but asked me what I am doing this weekend. The other, nothing yet on my last reply.
Am I missing something?
The most success I had was on OKcupid, where I had around maybe 5 photos, a very short profile mostly filled with humor and not taking it seriously, and that's that. I began sending messages to women, and my results were quite favorable; 50% reply rate, and around 5 visitors per week, all of which replied, but most didn't get past the initial 5-10 lines. Findings below:
Online dating recommendations
Immediately after making a profile, got winks and likes straight away, then the profiles disappeared after I subscribed and messaged them. After googling, turns out this is common - match scamming people into subscribing, and I feel like an idiot. Regardless I can't get a refund so that's over a hundred dollars down the drain already. So far, few matches, most profiles are offline, others are extremely materialistic/unrealistic/disgusting.
Spent - $130 AUD
Result - 0 dates, 1 conversation (1 email recieved, 2 sent), out of 50 'winks', out of 100 profiles (2% chance of initiating a conversation)
Impression - the site is designed to take advantage of vulnerable singles and con you out of money. STAY AWAY
Very good so far, alot of profiles and easy to chat and meet the ladies - who actually respond. Free to use.
Spent - $0 AUD
Result - 2 dates (good), 1 date cancelled (by me), 12 conversations, out of 25 profiles (50% chance of initiation a conversation)
Impression - Promising
Decent, only problem is the lack of options for filtering out the matches, you have to go left/right individually which will take time - and doesn't help if you are as picky as me. Still it can kill time while you are bored. Messaging is free, and girls message back.
Spent - $0 AUD
Result - 1 date (bad), 12 conversations, out of 16 matches - out of perhaps 50 that I swiped right to, (24% chance of initiation a conversation)
Impression - A real numbers game, but it works. Suggestion if you are a male, to swipe right to every photo and choose your matches from there, for me however - I just can't do that.
FINAL RESULTS: Through OKCupid I met two potentials. One I'm currently dating, and the other sitting in the backburner hehe, but hey, I recommend OKCupid compared to the 3 other options based on my experience - though limited. I'm focusing on continuing to see my date so I'm no longer looking much on the sites.
That was 3 sites I tried in the past, I also tried a more adult-orientated site which was quite favorable but grossed out pretty quick. Another app I tried was Skout, which had similar results to OKCupid, my current girlfriend I met on Skout. So yeah depends on the site too, and your location of course - if most of the women in your city use one app, best to use that one over my recommendations. I believe OKcupid and Skout works best because of the number of ACTIVE members.