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post #16 of 57 (permalink) Old 02-09-2017, 06:02 AM
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Re: Would you tell your sons to get married?

Too funny. I'm a Feminist and I don't think MrH is complaining about being extremely well taken care of, having an equal partner and basically have a pretty damn good life.

I say the same thing to my son as my daughters, marry someone that believes in a real partnership, equity and has good strong morals. Protect your assets and never settle for a partner that does not contribute fairly.
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I really hope for all of our sons to find the love of their lives one day...one has had a shattering heartbreak so far, another has caused heartbreak... things have not gone as smoothly as it has for me & their father... but I very much hope they find what we have someday, and build a family of their own... yes..

I wouldn't "tell" them to get married.. I just know they are the type that will want to, if they feel it is "right" , good, the compatibility is there.. and time has tested their relationship.
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Never get married that is my advice
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If my sons' feel like they found the right woman, I have no problems supporting them with their decision to get married. Likewise though, I am not going to push on them as if if they don't there is something wrong with them.

I do like the idea of eventually being a grandparent and don't like the idea of having kids out of wedlock (maybe wedlock isn't the right word, I don't like the idea of being a single parent, not that getting married guarantees anything).
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No, like Ecuador or Panama. Those are just examples, of course. Pretty much any Spanish-speaking country is going to be less misandrist than English-speaking ones.
You best advise them, then, of the property laws in the country they choose to go to. What most men who seek young and poor foreign wives don't realize is that they will lose absolutely everything they own and get kicked out of the country if and when she tires of him.
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Like Yemen?
I hear Putin has made it legal to beat one's wife. So I'm guessing Russia is a good bet too.
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Yes, for some reason "misandrist" isn't known nearly as well as "misogynist". I wonder why?
"Here is something to consider: the problem with being privileged your whole life is that after you have had that privilege for so long, equality starts to feel like oppression."
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One has to follow one's personality type......Some people are made for marriage, some think they are but really are not. I finally found out (after 24 years) that marriage is not my thing but a good committed relationship can be good for me. I have the perfect balance of autonomy and companionship........
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I always tell young men I work with to make sure, beyond a doubt, that the woman they are considering married is grounded in as many ways as possible. I also tell them to always have an exit plan...to never get themselves into a situation that they cannot quickly extricate themselves from. I also advise them to keep a secret stash of fast-cash handy... about $5,000 or so....in a safety deposit box or in a jar under the garage floor... in case they have to bail from a cheating or lunatic wife.
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Too funny. I'm a Feminist and I don't think MrH is complaining about being extremely well taken care of, having an equal partner and basically have a pretty damn good life.

I say the same thing to my son as my daughters, marry someone that believes in a real partnership, equity and has good strong morals. Protect your assets and never settle for a partner that does not contribute fairly.
Someone who would say this is not a feminist.
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I asked my son if he'd really thought it through and was sure, but did not encourage or dissuade him. He saw my first marriage - and my second - so knows what can go wrong or right. Besides, they've lived together for years already, so have an excellent idea about what to expect. They also seem very well suited to each other, and are both highly educated and have excellent careers, so the risk factors are low and the positive factors are high.

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My advice will be to not marry a feminist. Keep far away from them. I married a traditional woman and my marriage has been awesome.
The obvious ones are relatively easy to avoid, but some of them are well-camouflaged.

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I always tell young men I work with to make sure, beyond a doubt, that the woman they are considering married is grounded in as many ways as possible. I also tell them to always have an exit plan...to never get themselves into a situation that they cannot quickly extricate themselves from.
So that would be a "no".

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I also advise them to keep a secret stash of fast-cash handy... about $5,000 or so....in a safety deposit box or in a jar under the garage floor... in case they have to bail from a cheating or lunatic wife.
Not bad advice, but unless they have a second passport it won't do them much good against family court.

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I won't tell a grown man what to do. His father and I have raised him and now it's time for him to make his own decisions.
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Re: Would you tell your sons to get married?

Also, one way to guarantee not to ever see your child (or grandchildren) again is to tell them not to marry the person the love.

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