Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Warm in the summer, cold in the winter
Re: Would you tell your sons to get married?
My boys are a long way away from marriage, and marriage will be their choice. I can only advise them, but like it was stated above I am raising them to be independent. My role as a father is to raise these boys to flourish when they leave the nest. There are many things that they will learn from me and my wife. They will be self sufficient and have a college education.
Their entire life growing up is teaching them to leave the nest. Thrive on your successes, learn from a failure, and to care for their neighbor. Each winter I will snow blow people's driveways that can't do it for themselves. The boys come with me, and are learning to help others. Some of the people give the boys hot chocolate or five dollars, but it is their choice to do so.
We took toys to the marines recruiting center for the toys for tots program. They spoke of this very proudly to both sides of our family. Kids need to learn, they learn very much just by watching mom and dad. So hopefully they are learning what is necessary to have a good marriage. We don't fight in front of the boys, instead we discuss things to a resolution. As of now the boys have no clue about infidelity, this was kept from them as they were too young. But they will hear of it soon, and solutions will be given to them in therapy.
How they will decide about marriage I have no idea, but I hope they see the positives presented to them by my wife and I.
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