Actually it was an attempt at humour - and yes evidently I missed my mark.
Your avatar does not make it look like you have Marxist leanings.
At no point did I ever think you were a Marxist, Leninist, Trotskyist, Maoist, Communist or any other of their ilk.
I'm sorry my humour got lost in translation.
I chose Communist because it was an "ist" that fit, I could have just as easily written "don't marry an Anarchist or a member of the Milizia Volontaria per la Sicurezza Nazionale MVSN (Blackshirts)". But MVSN is a bit of a mouthful and some of my wife's relatives back in the day in Italy were members of that Fascist organisation, so I wrote Communist instead.
So my advice (of which my wife concurs) still stands, don't marry a Communist.
True story, back in 1996 when my wife and I started having sex with each other, when she was a politically active Feminist organiser in a Feminist Collective (who was being invited to dine with the then reigning political elites), I recall my wife was no friend to Socialist Party/Communist Party members and other Trotskyists, who were then trying to push their agendas through her collective.
Funnily enough back in the day I saw my wife give a speech once at a Feminist event and I didn't hear her say patriarchy at all. In fact the only time my Feminist wife has ever mentioned patriarchy to me, is when she's joked that I was to blame for something because of "patriarchy".
As it turns out my wife who was an active Third-wave Feminist, has never been a man hater. Nor has she ever been "generally nuts", and fortunately for her has also never suffered from any anxiety, depression or any other mental illnesses either.
As to being a brilliant mother, who knows? Both of our kids are quite accomplished academically, with our 16 year old son topping his school in a number of subjects last year (and almost topping all of the rest), while they both rate highly in national testing as well. Plus our 13 year old daughter is a talented musician, that is gifted in the visual arts and has also been competitive in a number of sports at Regional and Zone level. Yet they seem to be very happy, seem to be liked by their friends and seem to like talking to us as well. So I figure my wife and I, are probably not the worst of parents.
I also appreciate the fact that my wife got her Applied Science degree and other tertiary qualifications. Which has afforded her the opportunity to be employed in private enterprise and public service, which includes middle and senior management roles in Government.
Although my wife is happy to be a woman, I don't know if she relishes being one since it's not like she chose to be a woman.
As to being feminine, my Feminist wife is an attractive, highly sexual, 46 year old woman, who still has a fine figure and waistline. Who often wears REVIEW
dresses and similar with vintage handbags and jewellery. That said since she doesn't always want to tower over me, she doesn't always wear heels.
Incidentally most of my wife's contemporary Feminist friends, also appear to be happily married to men that they adore.
So considering my experience of knowing a number of Feminists and having been with one for close to 21 years (17+ years married). I find your perspective of Feminist women, very far removed from the reality that I have seen.
At the end of the day I am very fortunate for having married my luscious, accomplished and fun, Feminist wife.