Catherine602

Thanks for the correction - Miss Malaprop present and accounted for. It does make some of my writing funny don't you think. Trying out $15 words and mangling the English language.

I should not have made the post in reference to you . I think You made it quite clear that it had to come from your wife. Quoting your post was a mistake and I am sorry.

I meant the post to men or women who are persistent with a spouse that is clearly not interested. I have read some heart breaking post from frantic women and a few from men. I feel so bad for them.

One woman's husband refused to help her in a business they were running until she agreed to do a threesome. She was having difficulty keeping her head above water without his participation.

My suggestion was directed at women faced with that situation. I don't have an answer for men facing this. Divorce?

"That is the very defect of the matter, sir." Lancelot in The Merchant of Venice

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Catherine602

Ok done. I hate being hit in the head it makes me dizzy. But it is interesting that you say you would go along with the 3 rd being a woman. Dont you mean if she wanted a man or a woman? Suppose she wanted a man ?

I should have confined my statement to this question.

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mr.miketastic

I am certainly open to discussion, because I think it's important to be able to at least talk about it and come to a compromise. In my specific situation, there is a history that I have that would preclude her actually asking me to do something with another man. I personally know couples who have very unconventional relationships like that who have been together for decades. I think if it works for someone, then they should not be judged. My path is not yours, nor yours mine

Beowulf

You DO realize that the OP never stated that the threesome was one man and two woman right? Why was that assumed so quickly? I think some posters are pushing their personal agendas rather than answer the OP's question or even discussing the ramifications ALL parties would face in such a situation. I would never consider it as I have all I need in my wife and if she requested it I would question if I was all she needed. That said, to each his/her own.

Laurae1967

I love this quote! Give 'em hell!

mr.miketastic

There go those assumptions again

I can agree that there are deeper experiences that are more profound than sex, as one kabbalist put it, and I am paraphrasing : Experience of the divine is 60 or more times more profound than loving sex.
I think, however, that denying your humanity, and need for some kind of sexual connection is in fact denying a gift that has been given to all of us. How one chooses to express that, save for those who use sex to punish and harm others whether physically or psychically, is up to that person and they should not be held in judgement.
I know several poly "families" who have been together for far longer than many "vanilla", traditional marriages.
Please don't assume that anyone who is tolerant, and speaks tolerantly about sexual expression is automatically a slave to their genitals, as it demeans both you and those you accuse.

johniori1

I haven`t tried it in marriage.