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post #31 of 33 (permalink) Old 02-27-2017, 10:55 AM
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There is a way to succeed in all ways. It is simple. Live your life backwards.

Picture your ideal way of being old. Take the steps necessary to get to where you want to go. Most people have an idea of the career they want or if they want marriage and children but somewhere they lose the idea of setting new goals.

The goal for me was to be happy, live long and die with the loving care of a large and devoted family. I have put in place the blocks for that end. I suggest you examine where you really want to be in 50 years. Change the now to improve your aim and let your dreams fly into a future that will make you happy. The side benefit is, of course that everyone around will be happy too.

“In my next life I want to live my life backwards. You start out dead and get that out of the way. Then you wake up in an old people's home feeling better every day. You get kicked out for being too healthy, go collect your pension, and then when you start work, you get a gold watch and a party on your first day. You work for 40 years until you're young enough to enjoy your retirement. You party, drink alcohol, and are generally promiscuous, then you are ready for high school. You then go to primary school, you become a kid, you play. You have no responsibilities, you become a baby until you are born. And then you spend your last 9 months floating in luxurious spa-like conditions with central heating and room service on tap, larger quarters every day and then Voila! You finish off as an orgasm!” - Woody Allen
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post #32 of 33 (permalink) Old 03-25-2017, 06:31 AM
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stress and lack of sleep can be a real downer. I would offer to be ready to help him, like going on walks, hikes, work out at the gym ON HIS SCHEDULE. Physical effort will conquere the stress, and still let you guys be together doing it.

Find some things for YOU to do all by hobbies, a night course, etc, so you do not resent him not being able to spend that much time with you.
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Please don't take this as a criticism but you seem very highly strung and are probably contributing to your husbands stress levels rather than reducing them. For the next two months, no complaining about ANYTHING, no passive aggressive comments, no sarcastic remarks about having to do everything just pretend you have a person who is not well and look after him to the best of your ability. When he comes home have something prepared for him even if it is just a sandwich, let him talk if he wants to about his day,if he doesn't talk don't force the issue. Make his home somewhere that he sees as a place to unwind and relax, a place of comfort rather than a mini war zone. When his residency is over if you don't start to gradually see an improvement then you can reassess the situation.
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