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post #1 of 38 (permalink) Old 02-22-2017, 05:19 AM Thread Starter
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How would you answer this question?

I asked my husband this question and was very surprised by his answer. I'm wondering if other guys feel the same way he does or is he in the minority of male thinking.

If your SO asked you this what would be your answer,

"After we have sex do you feel,
- physically relieved
- closer to me
- happy about our family/relationship
- totally blank
- relaxed/stress free
- Blank (you fill in the blank)

Basically I wanted to know how he views sex so I could better understand his needs. I've read a lot of book on improving our marriage and improving myself to be a better wife and they all give their opinions on how men really think about sex, so I was curious as to what the adverage man, husband , father feels.
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Re: How would you answer this question?

All of those, except totally blank. Sex is definitely bonding, makes me feel closer and loving, I feel happier and relaxed, and physically relieved (in that I usually don't have the urge to have sex again right away--but will ensure her needs are met regardless).

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post #3 of 38 (permalink) Old 02-22-2017, 08:31 AM
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I can't really know what I'm feeling because if I think about it the feeling kind of flits away... thinking and feeling are VERY much disconnected. I think most men are that way to a degree. That's why we are amazing when women remember the **** we say sometimes... we aren't connected emotionally that way so the things we say don't have the emotional content that they do when a woman says something.

I couldn't really pick from that list. It's really more of a warm happy and content. And the content is with the connection but also with the sex. So it's sexy but not in any way that is related to masturbation.

The list you have include harder boundaries and clearer delimitation and I don't have specific thoughts when I'm feeling and I don't have clear feelings when I'm thinking.


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Re: How would you answer this question?

I simply feel there is no place I'd rather be than right there, right then, with all I am, where I am.

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Relaxed Happy. A rare thing for me.
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Re: How would you answer this question?

"After we have sex do you feel,
- physically relieved.....................................yes, absolutley!
- closer to me........................................... without a doubt
- happy about our family/relationship...............yes
- totally blank............................................. .really??? no
- relaxed/stress free....................................yes.
- Blank (you fill in the blank)........................makes the whole day shine

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Re: How would you answer this question?

My husband always speaks of the "bonding" - sometimes he jokes I took all of his Test... we always have a little "after glow".. but if it's a night.. he'll soon be conked out.
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Re: How would you answer this question?

you are asking for a finite answer. its not that simple.

physical relief? sure...but sometimes, and I can't explain why, the sex is "better" than others and the impact to the "release" aspect..can be different. I can not stand how many women attach "physical release" to sex as if men are just like wild animals programed to mate and do anyone who walks by. of course it feels good physically.....duh. I have heard plenty of women state it feels good physically too for them....yet it is men who are constantly chastised about "release".

closer to me? of course. that's simply another aspect of why sex is important to a man and a relationship.

Happy about fam/relationship? I really do not understand this. are you saying having sex could make one feel worse about their family or relationship?

totally blank? no the emotions of it can be all over the place, also being impacted on what happened leading up to sex and afterwards.

relaxed and stress free? well I may never be stress FREE...but yeah, I do feel better, more hopeful about many things in life afterward.

fill in the blank......there is no time I feel closer and more connected. and that doesn't mean my relationship simply revolves around sex.
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Re: How would you answer this question?

Yes, YES, yes, kinda, yes.

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Bonding

so closer and happy about the relationship is what is top for me
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I asked my husband this question and was very surprised by his answer. I'm wondering if other guys feel the same way he does or is he in the minority of male thinking.

If your SO asked you this what would be your answer,

"After we have sex do you feel,
- physically relieved
- closer to me
- happy about our family/relationship
- totally blank
- relaxed/stress free
- Blank (you fill in the blank)

Basically I wanted to know how he views sex so I could better understand his needs. I've read a lot of book on improving our marriage and improving myself to be a better wife and they all give their opinions on how men really think about sex, so I was curious as to what the adverage man, husband , father feels.
"After we have sex do you feel,
- physically relieved..................................ABSOLUTE LY!
- closer to me..........................................About as close as one can be. We are ONE.
- happy about our family/relationship..........ECSTATIC, because I know I am loved!
- totally blank...........................................On ly for a few brief seconds after the O..
- relaxed/stress free..................................TOTALLY relaxed once the heart rate goes down.
- Blank (you fill in the blank)......................There's absolutely no other feeling like being completely intimate with the one person you truly love -- your soul mate. We are completely safe and secure, and warm and fuzzy on the inside to the core of our being.

There's really no way to describe it in words. It's just about as close to heaven on earth as a person gets.
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Re: How would you answer this question?

I usually just fall asleep so I don't feel anything.
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Re: How would you answer this question?

[QUOTE=Daisy12;17410626]I asked my husband this question and was very surprised by his answer. I'm wondering if other guys feel the same way he does or is he in the minority of male thinking.

If your SO asked you this what would be your answer,

"After we have sex do you feel,
- physically relieved
- closer to me
- happy about our family/relationship
- relaxed/stress free

And importantly, I feel like a man.
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I asked my husband this question and was very surprised by his answer. I'm wondering if other guys feel the same way he does or is he in the minority of male thinking.

If your SO asked you this what would be your answer,

"After we have sex do you feel,
- physically relieved
- closer to me
- happy about our family/relationship
- totally blank
- relaxed/stress free
- Blank (you fill in the blank)

Basically I wanted to know how he views sex so I could better understand his needs. I've read a lot of book on improving our marriage and improving myself to be a better wife and they all give their opinions on how men really think about sex, so I was curious as to what the adverage man, husband , father feels.
Hmm, after all the don't do that's and restrictions put on everything I find myself wondering what it would be like to have a normal woman with a normal sexual appetite.

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Re: How would you answer this question?

Refuse to answer, It's a trap!
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