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post #16 of 20 (permalink) Old 02-25-2017, 10:41 PM
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Re: ? For the guys - style and mature women

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So we went into Target today and I asked him to show me what kind of thing he wanted me to wear. So he picked out a dress and I tried it on in my size and went to show it to him and he just kind of blurted out "you look pregnant." Needless to say we didn't buy it and I'm not too happy with him right now.

I do have a weird figure. I have almost no neck, wide shoulders, large breasts (40DD) and a beer belly around the middle but a small waist (still a size 8 in jeans) and heavy thighs but almost stick thin calves. Dresses just never fit me right on both top and bottom so I'm stuck in separates.

As far as the body confidence I've really never had it. I've been hearing that I was funny looking and even ugly since I was a small child. Bullied for it even. Makes it hard to have a good body image.
What a foolish thing he said, ugh. The more you post about him the more I wonder why you are giving up your precious time for him.

Anyway as to your question, I'm 50 and TBH look and feel more confident and sexy now that I ever did. I prefer stylish to cheap looking clothes and absolutely love dressing up, heels, make up etc. I never bought into the rubbish about cutting your hair off after 40 but I have been blessed with beautiful hair and plan on keeping it long for some time to come.

I would go dress shopping with anyone other than this man, take a girlfriend or go to a better standard of store where the staff will help you. I can tell by looking at a dress on the hanger whether it will suit my body type, once you know this then shopping is much easier. From your description it seems the best type of dress would be one that accentuates your small waist. Will try and find some pics.

But like the others have said, confidence is the most stylish accessory you can have. When you learn what suits your style and body shape then you can rock it and walk with confidence. Honestly this man is the biggest confidence, a man that brings you down is a bully.
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post #17 of 20 (permalink) Old 02-25-2017, 10:47 PM
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I make the most of my curvy shape, big boobs, small waist and decent arse and wear dresses that show the curves. Anything with a waist band is completely out as it makes me look older. I have to wonder if separates really are that flattering on you. How tall are you?

or this style as it accentuates the bust and waist but has no waist band

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post #18 of 20 (permalink) Old 02-26-2017, 07:49 AM Thread Starter
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Mrs Holland those dresses are cute but they wouldn't work for me. My fiancé might have been rude (in his defense he said it almost in shock it wasn't deliberate) but he was right. My belly hangs in such a way that I do look 5-6 months pregnant. It starts swelling just below my breasts and nips back in just above my waist. I usually hide it with jeans and bulky sweaters. If I do wear a dress it's usually a shapeless maternity style.

I get asked on a regular basis when the baby is due despite the white hair. It's incredibly humiliating.

I am 5'5 and 180 pounds. My measurements are 40 chest, 46!!! at my belly button, and only 32 waist. And I can't seem to lose weight no matter what I do. I have a long walk from my car to my office that is a steep hill going in, I do treadmill at the Y on weekends, I go to family night swim with my son, I hike in the summer. And I keep gaining. I don't eat all that much either. Protein shake and a piece of string cheese for breakfast, salad for lunch, maybe spaghetti or chicken and rice stir fry for supper. I don't drink coffee. I allow myself one serving of a snack once a day and it can't be over 200 calories. I track my calories on Spark People and I rarely go over 1500. Which is why I believe my doctor when she says it's my thyroid. I unfortunately can't take medication for it because they tried me on 3 different ones and I had an allergic reaction to all 3. I have severe allergy problems and a lot of meds are off limits for me.
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Re: ? For the guys - style and mature women

How to dress the apple body shape ? the best tops and bottoms




Do some window shopping? Figure out what flatters your shape..... v-neck, or U-neck, and showing the legs?

I'm just guessing. I have no fashion sense. I ask my daughter about my outfits sometimes, but I am not sure if she is being polite. I know I just try to cover what I think are my problem spots, and focus on the good areas. BUT, my h doesn't seem to have any issues with my problem spots. Like, I have too much belly and he wants me in a bikini. I feel like my butt is flabby, and he loves me in a thong. Sometimes I wear things just to please him....like out of state I wore a bikini....lol, far away from anyone I know!
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My wife is 64 and dresses age appropriate these days. It is not stylish or to my tastes but she is comfortable and that is all that matters. Not too long ago she asked me how I could still be attractive to her body. I told her that when I see her, I see the young girl I married. I also said that I am in love with the person she is and not what she wears or looks like. That is my opinion on style and fashion for the mature woman.

Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality.
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