Ok so I'm basically wondering how men feel about things like hair and clothing styles on "mature" women (I'll define this as 40+).
My fiancé is 54. I am 46. He has mentioned a couple of times just in passing that he wishes I would try growing my hair out and dress/look a little "sexier" in public. Fashion/style has always said that after 40 most women can't pull off long hair/short skirts/sexy clothing. I know that's not true for all women over 40. But I do believe it's true for me. He says it's not that important to him but since he's brought it up more than once I have to wonder.
I personally think I look awful if I let my hair get much below my jawline. I am prematurely totally white haired and my hair tends to very fine, fly away, and brittle. If I grow it much longer than usual it starts breaking and it's thin enough already. I can't use styling products or dye my hair back to its natural blonde because I am allergic to most scented bath and body products (both skin and sinus reactions). Same thing with perfumes and cosmetics. So I'm kind of forced to go natural with my look. I don't have a lot of facial wrinkles yet but my neck is sagging and I do get bags under my eyes a lot.
As far as dressing sexy, it's something I'm not at all comfortable with at 46 and 50 pounds overweight. I like the current menswear look and if I need to wear a dress it will probably be a wrap style to hide my gut. I don't wear heels unless I have no choice. I do own some nice clothes but they haven't fit in a long time now. Dieting is hard for me due to thyroid issues my metabolism sucks. I'm actually a fairly active person what with a full time job and running a small farm alone.
It's not like he's pressuring me to change my look and considering he's bald, also overweight, and wears horrible Hawaiian shirts 7 days a week my guess is he doesn't feel the right to pressure me about it when he won't change his look either.
So guys - if the women in your life are in the 40 and up age group - how much do these things matter to you? Would you be unhappy with someone who looks like I do? Would you want me to make more of an effort? Would you make more of an effort if I did?
Oh and one more thing - his ex wife and his ex GF were and still are both highly attractive women. I'm "cute" on a good day. On a bad day I'm downright plain. I can't help but wonder sometimes if he wants me to change my look because he's not very attracted to me.
My fiancé is 54. I am 46. He has mentioned a couple of times just in passing that he wishes I would try growing my hair out and dress/look a little "sexier" in public. Fashion/style has always said that after 40 most women can't pull off long hair/short skirts/sexy clothing. I know that's not true for all women over 40. But I do believe it's true for me. He says it's not that important to him but since he's brought it up more than once I have to wonder.
I personally think I look awful if I let my hair get much below my jawline. I am prematurely totally white haired and my hair tends to very fine, fly away, and brittle. If I grow it much longer than usual it starts breaking and it's thin enough already. I can't use styling products or dye my hair back to its natural blonde because I am allergic to most scented bath and body products (both skin and sinus reactions). Same thing with perfumes and cosmetics. So I'm kind of forced to go natural with my look. I don't have a lot of facial wrinkles yet but my neck is sagging and I do get bags under my eyes a lot.
As far as dressing sexy, it's something I'm not at all comfortable with at 46 and 50 pounds overweight. I like the current menswear look and if I need to wear a dress it will probably be a wrap style to hide my gut. I don't wear heels unless I have no choice. I do own some nice clothes but they haven't fit in a long time now. Dieting is hard for me due to thyroid issues my metabolism sucks. I'm actually a fairly active person what with a full time job and running a small farm alone.
It's not like he's pressuring me to change my look and considering he's bald, also overweight, and wears horrible Hawaiian shirts 7 days a week my guess is he doesn't feel the right to pressure me about it when he won't change his look either.
So guys - if the women in your life are in the 40 and up age group - how much do these things matter to you? Would you be unhappy with someone who looks like I do? Would you want me to make more of an effort? Would you make more of an effort if I did?
Oh and one more thing - his ex wife and his ex GF were and still are both highly attractive women. I'm "cute" on a good day. On a bad day I'm downright plain. I can't help but wonder sometimes if he wants me to change my look because he's not very attracted to me.