Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Southern USA, but longtime NYC boy prior to our move.
Re: my crazy ****ing world.
I will offer this for what it is worth. I have been into BDSM for a few decades until I talked to my doctor about it. He said that BDSM is often the refuge of the depressed because it takes your attention away from the real world. I spent a year trying to find a drug that controlled my depression and did not take my sex life away. I finally found one that works for me and lo and behold, my extreme BDSM needs disappeared and my marriage improved significantly. My wife loves how I am medicated and I do not feel like a zombie. I just do not obsess or think about negative things needlessly anymore. Instead of laying in bed wondering why to leave it, I am up in a flash and ready to meet the day. Now my wife says I smother her with love and attention and things are just great in my world again. Still stick a toe into the BDSM world but nothing like I was doing before.
Talk to a Psychologist that specializes in sex and marriage problems. It can help when depression is the cause.
Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality.