What kinds of wounds?
Well, that's a interesting question, she fled with our child to another state and stayed with her family who essentially bullied her into concealing the child, also while critically ill, and I was dealing with a out of control monster before she fled, while critically ill, she had sepsis and some other severe health crisis which obviously effect her mental ability's, judgement, perception etc.
We have been together for 20 yrs, no infidelity, fairly regular and vibrant sex life, a few dry spells dealing with illness hear and there but nothing to out of control. We mostly get along,we are significantly happier then most couples I know, on the average. but the last yr where she has been getting increasingly more ill communication became not only impractical but largely to difficult to do successfully, she had obvious signs of cognitive impairment.
Now, since she has been in ongoing medical care, and is starting to get on the mend and her mind seems to be returning, we have both confessed a severe desire to return to each others arms, and I mean we have both been in tears on the phone apologizing to each other, my behavior was difficult, hers was out of control, so I did what men do, I became more domineering and controlling as she was spiraling into illness, because she could not even manage her meds correctly. so as her ability dwindled I began picking up her slack, and largely I love my wife, so it was a chore but done gladly, frankly I did not expect her to survive this latest bout of illness.
We have never been a perfectly happy couple, we have fought and I discovered this year that our asd child had been catching allot of abuse from mom, as her health declined, etc. so as it stands, our family is separated, she cannot see the child currently,court order, due to flight, and we are both in a tremendous amount of pain over the entire situation, it is soul crushingly hard to keep our child from her, I do not want to do it, but I need to ascertain if he is safe with her. I will also be dealing with my in laws, and make it abundantly clear, you come on my turf again, I will ventilate you with Double 0.
Her family thought that you know, having a whole whooping 14 days of contact with her over the course of 20 yrs gave them sufficient right to come get into the middle of our relationship. We are not legally married, she has severe chronic health problms, and insurance will not take her, do the math from their.
So first, I think I need to go see her, at a minimum and ascertain her health, and I told her I want counseling, I need some help managing my anger and despair over all of this. I have tried not to be angry, but its been hard.