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post #16 of 54 (permalink) Old 03-01-2017, 12:05 PM
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Oh I have no qualms calling it what it is. I am my husbands submissive, and happily so, have been for many years.

We have gone together many times browsing new toys, but frankly we live on a **** little island with one ONE sex shop, so not much to choose from. So I have been browsing online on our favorite kink shops, but unless you can hold it in your hand and give the item a once over, you can't really know if it will be for you. That 's why I was asking what then men here enjoyed the most in the ways of toys, real time reviews yah know:?

H has always been he one to bring home new playthings, he's better at judging what we'd like I guess.

Anal play hasnt really intrigued him either.
then shock him, maybe he doesn't think your interested, it would be rare for a Dom not to have interest in anal play, to me it is one of the greatest forms of a submission a sub can make, here, I get nothing from this but pleasuring you. Obviously you don't make a cake with spice, so anal play is a spice, the cake still needs cake. Maybe get a butt plug and the next time you guys are going at it, you can surprise him ?

I dunno, but submission, requires allot of trust, so that would be inviting him in for more trust. But something along those lines, as a Dom I would find incredibly awesome.
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Most of our relationship was great, outside of her chronic illness and after she had the transplants was fairly smooth for many years. I am hoping we can get back there. If not, I am gonna **** that little submissive babysitter of mine that keeps throwing it in my face. Boy will she be in for a ride.
I really hope that comment about the babysitter was a joke. Unless that's you and your wifes kink. I know plenty who bring in outside partners to ****en for fun. But again, it's only with the blessing of both in the marriage.

Being a Dom is NOT about getting what you want when you want, despite what would cross the line for your partner. That's just called being a **** husband.
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then shock him, maybe he doesn't think your interested, it would be rare for a Dom not to have interest in anal play, to me it is one of the greatest forms of a submission a sub can make, here, I get nothing from this but pleasuring you. Obviously you don't make a cake with spice, so anal play is a spice, the cake still needs cake. Maybe get a butt plug and the next time you guys are going at it, you can surprise him ?

I dunno, but submission, requires allot of trust, so that would be inviting him in for more trust. But something along those lines, as a Dom I would find incredibly awesome.
Thats a fantastic idea! I trust him with my body completely. It would most definitely be nice to show him how much I trust him. Time to shop! 😈
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saibasu,

Look into e-stim, it is basically using a TENS nerve stimulation device on his penis. With you using the controls he would have to be very trusting. You can't really hurt him with it but if you turn it up to fast you can surprise him.
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I really hope that comment about the babysitter was a joke. Unless that's you and your wifes kink. I know plenty who bring in outside partners to ****en for fun. But again, it's only with the blessing of both in the marriage.

Being a Dom is NOT about getting what you want when you want, despite what would cross the line for your partner. That's just called being a **** husband.
No I was saying if we can't reconcile, I am going to have my way with my babysitter, who has told me she is a submissive and who give me so much attraction language I can barely stand it.

Nope, never been into extra partnered sex, hard enough to handle 1 woman, who needs 2 ya know ?
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saibasu,

Look into e-stim, it is basically using a TENS nerve stimulation device on his penis. With you using the controls he would have to be very trusting. You can't really hurt him with it but if you turn it up to fast you can surprise him.
Estim has always unnerved me, though I don't really know why. I've never used it or done it either. But I'm willing to try anything once. Maybe that something me and him could try for the first time together. I dont know much about it so I guess I need to do some research on it first.
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No I was saying if we can't reconcile, I am going to have my way with my babysitter, who has told me she is a submissive and who give me so much attraction language I can barely stand it.

Nope, never been into extra partnered sex, hard enough to handle 1 woman, who needs 2 ya know ?
Oh ok. I get it. Wasn't trying to be a *****, though my mouth gets me in plenty of trouble I really feel for people with lackluster /non-existent sex lived. Like my heart hurts for them. I couldn't be with someone who didn't love sex as much as me. But to each their own.

How's the sex with your wife?

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Oh ok. I get it. Wasn't trying to be a *****, though my mouth gets me in plenty of trouble I really feel for people with lackluster /non-existent sex lived. Like my heart hurts for them. I couldn't be with someone who didn't love sex as much as me. But to each their own.

How's the sex with your wife?

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I am a dom, though we negotiate more out of the bedroom, in the bedroom, I make sure she gets hers, It has been months since we have had sex, and that tasty little morsel is driving me mad. I got the monster under control, I have it locked in it's cage, but I can't say I am not tempted to let it out to eat though.
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I am a dom, though we negotiate more out of the bedroom, in the bedroom, I make sure she gets hers, It has been months since we have had sex, and that tasty little morsel is driving me mad. I got the monster under control, I have it locked in it's cage, but I can't say I am not tempted to let it out to eat though.
Wow...Months??!? Damn that's harsh. We negotiate more out of the bedroom too. I actually run **** quite well inside the bedroom? Thats his territory, and I'm thankful for that!

Is your wifes illness still affecting her?
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Wow...Months??!? Damn that's harsh. We negotiate more out of the bedroom too. I actually run **** quite well inside the bedroom? Thats his territory, and I'm thankful for that!

Is your wifes illness still affecting her?

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That really suck's, for the both of you. I hope her prognosis is good and she can expect a full recovery in the near future. In the mean time, keep those hands off that babysitter

Remember, one day (hopefully soon) your wife will be back to herself (again hopefully) and she will have many months of frustration quelled up inside her too! When that storms comes, lay back and revel in it!
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That really suck's, for the both of you. I hope her prognosis is good and she can expect a full recovery in the near future. In the mean time, keep those hands off that babysitter

Remember, one day (hopefully soon) your wife will be back to herself (again hopefully) and she will have many months of frustration quelled up inside her too! When that storms comes, lay back and revel in it!
Her best prognosis isn't very good if we are being honest.

now back to your sex toy thing, did you find something yet ?
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Her best prognosis isn't very good if we are being honest.

now back to your sex toy thing, did you find something yet ?


I haven't picked anything out for sure yet, but I've got a few ideas from browsing some online shops. The electrostim stuff looks pretty interesting, as do a few vibrating devices (cockrings, wands, etc) I like the above posters idea of the BJ with vibrator action.

I found this really need device too, it attaches to my tongue and vibrates.... I'm thinking he'd love him some vibrating oral
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I haven't picked anything out for sure yet, but I've got a few ideas from browsing some online shops. The electrostim stuff looks pretty interesting, as do a few vibrating devices (cockrings, wands, etc) I like the above posters idea of the BJ with vibrator action.

I found this really need device too, it attaches to my tongue and vibrates.... I'm thinking he'd love him some vibrating oral
that sounds nice, is your husband into prostate stimulation ?
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Its worth finding out first if he has any interest in being dominated. If so, there are lots of possibilities. If not then it would be a waste to try.

If he normally dominates you, maybe you just need to think of something new you are willing to try that he might like. A later post mentioned estim. You can buy stuff for that (BDSM gear is expensive and good, or a TENS unit which is cheap but not very powerful. If you only use it below the waist it is basically completely safe. (other uses *can* be safe but need to know what you are doing). That is still for use on you.

Just the limits of my interests, but if I'm in a dom sort of mood, what I most want is my partners body, not any devices.


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Yes it is really hard to surprise your partner with a toy, that's why I came here because I didn't know what to get!

If it helps any, we have an assortment of gear already. Handcuffs, hog ties, gags, collars etc. I guess I am looking for something that I can use on HIM. My creativity has been lacking as of late and I kind of want to shock him, but in a good way. If that makes sense?
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