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post #1 of 54 (permalink) Old 03-01-2017, 06:50 AM Thread Starter
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Hey guys, I'm looking for some advice from the menfolk here, women feel free to share too.

My husband and I have a very active sex life and we enjoy lots of adventurous love making. My question to you is:

Men, what sex toys do you love your wife using on you? Is there anything in particular that blows your mind? Id ask my H what he's interested in trying, but I'd like to surprise him some night with a special ride just for him. Thoughts?
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Hey guys, I'm looking for some advice from the menfolk here, women feel free to share too.

My husband and I have a very active sex life and we enjoy lots of adventurous love making. My question to you is:

Men, what sex toys do you love your wife using on you? Is there anything in particular that blows your mind? Id ask my H what he's interested in trying, but I'd like to surprise him some night with a special ride just for him. Thoughts?
What gets mf off, and this may vary, is having control of my wifes orgasm, in such a way as I can either give or deny it, but keep her on the edge, oh the joy of keeping her on the edge.
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It depends a lot on the sort of sex you enjoy.

Some of the artifical V sex toys (fleshlights, etc) are more stimulating than the real thing, but the psychological feeling may be much less interesting than real. Same for vibrators.

Some men find prostate toys make things much more intense, but many find the idea too disturbing to try.


Its difficult to tell since interests vary so much, but personally I find male sex toys only interesting in the context of a female-dominant scenario - "I'm going to make you..., " . Otherwise I find actual female bodies much more desirable.

If you broaden the term "sex toy" to include lingerie , handcuffs etc, then there are a wide range of possibilities, but again it completely depends on the person.


There will be huge variation. That makes it really difficult to surprise him (or women) with a new sex toy and get good results.
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What gets mf off, and this may vary, is having control of my my wifes orgasm, in such a way as I can either give or deny it, but keep her on the edge, oh the joy of keeping her on the edge.
Oh my H gets off on that too. But that's an everyday norm for us. I'm looking for a nice toy to surprise him with!
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It depends a lot on the sort of sex you enjoy.

Some of the artifical V sex toys (fleshlights, etc) are more stimulating than the real thing, but the psychological feeling may be much less interesting than real. Same for vibrators.

Some men find prostate toys make things much more intense, but many find the idea too disturbing to try.


Its difficult to tell since interests vary so much, but personally I find male sex toys only interesting in the context of a female-dominant scenario - "I'm going to make you..., " . Otherwise I find actual female bodies much more desirable.

If you broaden the term "sex toy" to include lingerie , handcuffs etc, then there are a wide range of possibilities, but again it completely depends on the person.


There will be huge variation. That makes it really difficult to surprise him (or women) with a new sex toy and get good results.
Yes it is really hard to surprise your partner with a toy, that's why I came here because I didn't know what to get!

If it helps any, we have an assortment of gear already. Handcuffs, hog ties, gags, collars etc. I guess I am looking for something that I can use on HIM. My creativity has been lacking as of late and I kind of want to shock him, but in a good way. If that makes sense?
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Yes it is really hard to surprise your partner with a toy, that's why I came here because I didn't know what to get!

If it helps any, we have an assortment of gear already. Handcuffs, hog ties, gags, collars etc. I guess I am looking for something that I can use on HIM. My creativity has been lacking as of late and I kind of want to shock him, but in a good way. If that makes sense?
Do you use any of that stuff on him? If not, tie him to the bed, blindfold him, tease him in various ways, get yourself off using him but make him hold off, then blow him while using a vibrator under his balls.

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Do you use any of that stuff on him? If not, tie him to the bed, blindfold him, tease him in various ways, get yourself off using him but make him hold off, then blow him while using a vibrator under his balls.
I have never used our gear on him, that's always been strictly for me, he likes to bind, not BE bound. But who knows, he may let me. I may just try that, though I could end up walking away with a sore ass after approaching him with cuffs.
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Oh my H gets off on that too. But that's an everyday norm for us. I'm looking for a nice toy to surprise him with!
Get him a toy that he can use to ride the edge harder, maybe something that is a bit of pain and pleasure ?
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Do you use any of that stuff on him? If not, tie him to the bed, blindfold him, tease him in various ways, get yourself off using him but make him hold off, then blow him while using a vibrator under his balls.
I really need to get my wife to do this if we can mend our fences
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Get him a toy that he can use to ride the edge harder, maybe something that is a bit of pain and pleasure ?
That sounds interesting. Have any recommendations? Nothing sweeter than sexualizing torture
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I really need to get my wife to do this if we can mend our fences
I'd say try to mend them WITH crazy sex. But I'm a Hornball so take that advice with a grain of salt. If I'm being difficult, a good smack to the ass usually shifts my mood for the better. (see,... hornball). For us, if the sex isn't right or is lacking, **** goes down hill fast. Lifes too short to not have your mind blown daily with a righteous orgasm.
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That sounds interesting. Have any recommendations? Nothing sweeter than sexualizing torture
Lets be honest, your already having the D/s marriage, whether your calling it that or not. go toy shopping, see if something catches your eye ? do you have any but plugs or do you engage in anal play at all ? I don't know what your bedroom antics look like, so it is hard to recommend.
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I'd say try to mend them WITH crazy sex. But I'm a Hornball so take that advice with a grain of salt. If I'm being difficult, a good smack to the ass usually shifts my mood for the better. (see,... hornball). For us, if the sex isn't right or is lacking, **** goes down hill fast. Lifes too short to not have your mind blown daily with a righteous orgasm.
Most of our relationship was great, outside of her chronic illness and after she had the transplants was fairly smooth for many years. I am hoping we can get back there. If not, I am gonna **** that little submissive babysitter of mine that keeps throwing it in my face. Boy will she be in for a ride.
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Lets be honest, your already having the D/s marriage, whether your calling it that or not. go toy shopping, see if something catches your eye ? do you have any but plugs or do you engage in anal play at all ? I don't know what your bedroom antics look like, so it is hard to recommend.
Oh I have no qualms calling it what it is. I am my husbands submissive, and happily so, have been for many years.

We have gone together many times browsing new toys, but frankly we live on a **** little island with one ONE sex shop, so not much to choose from. So I have been browsing online on our favorite kink shops, but unless you can hold it in your hand and give the item a once over, you can't really know if it will be for you. That 's why I was asking what then men here enjoyed the most in the ways of toys, real time reviews yah know:?

H has always been he one to bring home new playthings, he's better at judging what we'd like I guess.

Anal play hasnt really intrigued him either.
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