Because I pleasure myself every single day, at least 2-3 times a day?
That could be from coping with lack of intimacy. Are you considering a sex therapist (The same doc would also talk about relationship & dating issues)?
The reason why I don't start sex on the 2nd date is that I don't want it to take a sexual direction only, as well as I don't want the guy to think that I'm too easy for sex and that's it. I don't want to come across as a sex toy for him.
Sorry, you won't know that - until he proves it with his actions. A guy telling a gal "I love you, so lets shag" does work with many women. I've never used "love" to get into a woman's panties.
A friend of mine dated this one woman for a year - about 1~2 times a month. She was "saving herself" and he was interested in her more than just sex. During that time, he likely had sex with 3~6 women a month. I don't know how his dates really go, of course. Look, you WANT sex, he wants sex... there are women who use men for sex too. Put it into perspective, you both get what you want.
You had posted about a guy pulling out his penis on the 4th date. I would agree with you that it was inappropriate for him to do so unless you had shown indications that YOU wanted him to do it.
You also posted much earlier about a friend talking about a woman who was like a dead fish. BOTH Men and women talk... don't take it personally. Some women are BAD at sex, they lay there - I don't know why (I've heard from other guys) but there are guys who are BAD too - pre-ejaculation or they last only 10 seconds then fall asleep. Or they don't go down, or they only go in and out.
What if you dated a guy for a month, then found out he was VERY bad in bed AND only had a 3" pencil thin penis? I HAPPENS. ((about me having sex with my wife before we dated))
Not always true. My friend had sex with a guy she always used to like for the past months but never got the chance to talk to him until he approached her first. They had drinks, went for dinner, had sex and he never called her back. I don't want to go through that.
I didn't say it was always true. You can date a guy for 5 months, then finally have sex - then he dumps you. It could be because of bad sex or it was just a notch on his belt. There are players, there are lovers, there are all kinds of men and women out there. With dating experience, you kind of learn how to spot these signs. There are guys out there, who are straight up "I'm looking for NSA or casual dating" - which is a start. I have ZERO disrespect for any woman I ever had sex with. I don't look at them any lower for that. If they were stupid, a racist, a criminal - that would make me lose respect for them. Even when a woman was BAD at sex, I didn't insult them... I didn't return for seconds.
You can't control what someone else does. That guy who dated your friend. Maybe he didn't like her in bed - who knows.
I go to the gym 5 times a week and have been doing so for the past 6 years regularly. I take care of my body and appearance. I have many guy-friends at the gym [with some of them I'm more flirtatious..] at least 14 guys from there have asked me out on a date. Some of them married, others already in a relationship and others simply single. I've gone out with only 2 of them(single ones). With one of them had sex.
Cool. And points for not dating married ones. I check out the nice looking ones at the gym - I usually then think "Wish my wife was at the gym" - I've never asked for a date at the gym... Don't poop where you eat type of thing pretty much. Also, I'm there for the workout.
It'll always come down to this... you want to be in a relationship and have intimate sex... you're going to have to go hunting. Masturbation doesn't make you a master of sex.