I almost posted on the FWB thread on this, but it belongs here.
I have not changed my mind on my suggestions to you... make it into something that works for you. I meant it that I understand where you are coming from. I really have no regrets from the good and bad experiences of being a party animal. Many of my friend and buddies know of my antics - hell, they have video or pics (as I do on some of them) - which is like "HEY! Send me a copy!" You are still young, you are single. You are pretty much free to do what you want, your fantasies are open to you - just use protection and be safe. My sex number is well north of 100, actually, it is likely north of 200. I used to keep count until about 150+. Do math: club/party everyweekend (2 days a week) x 4 weeks, may result in 1~6 new sex partners a month. x 52 weeks a year = 50~300 new sex partners a year... right? well, not exactly.
So yeah, even I may not get laid at all for a month or I may have sex with 6 different women over one weekend. I maybe in a relationship with a woman, even OR - means I'm NOT so active for others. I did have GF here and there.
You can meet a very nice and honest man at an orgy as well as you can meet a jerk child molester at a church... A lot of people have fake fronts. Or a "work face" - like when you buy stuff from a store and everyone is nice, etc. But if you meet them on the street, they would be indifferent to you and walk on by.
Why fo I know where you are coming from?
From age 20~30, I had a single ONS and dated 3 women. Out of those, I only had sex with two of them (ONS, of course, is one of them). The one I dated - we had sex 5 times. I only wanted to date someone that would be a GF - just the ONE woman for me. Sound familiar? Why were all these guys getting laid, getting GF, getting wives - but not me? Some of these guys were big, or fat or not all that attractive - yet had nice or even hot women. Turning 30 was a wake up call. I wasn't getting anywhere, I was lonely and I wanted to be in love. Had a miserable GF at 31... little sex, but I was "in love" for the wrong reasons and thought I was in love... My lack of relationship experience blinded me from reality, but still - she was a part of my history of learning how to date.
So it took me about a year to re-program myself as best I could to NOT be shy, to start talking to women, to open myself to date women who did not fit my "perfect ideal". With that I found out that all kinds of different people like different things - yet have feelings and desires and drama like everyone else. So from age 31~40, I had 200+ sexual partners, I still had dates that did not result in sex or relationship, each failure was a learning lesson. I would think of where I went wrong. Each positive thing I liked, I filed in my memory of what I would like in a girlfriend. When I met my wife, she blew me away. Was she my "ideal woman" I spent my 20's and early 30's looking for? Nope. Not even close. Why? Because my fantasy partner did not exist. It never does, for anyone.
Even when my wife cheated on me, it broke my heart. I did start dating when we broke up, meet some good but also and scary women, I had sex with some. But I still wanted my wife - I gave her a chance and we are doing good today.
Go out... meet guys. Learn what you like.