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post #16 of 21 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 03:05 PM
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Re: Help fulfill a dream

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@MattMatt I want to do that in one nature place and decorate this look like magic kingdom with unicorns, speaking utensils etc...
Do it at Disneyland. Now find a job for the tab.

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Re: Help fulfill a dream

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Do it at Disneyland. Now find a job for the tab.
Wait just a freaking moment... Isn't customary for the father of the bride to pay for the wedding?

@JacobWhiteberg are you asking for help on behalf of your father in law?
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Wait just a freaking moment... Isn't customary for the father of the bride to pay for the wedding?

@JacobWhiteberg are you asking for help on behalf of your father in law?
Customary doesn't mean it's required. When I got married I paid for most of it because her father was dead. In other cases the father is broke, selfish, estranged, or for whatever reason not forthcoming with willingness to foot the bill for a marriage he might not even approve of. If my eldest didn't break up with her boyfriend I would have probably gifted them $5000 towards their wedding.
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post #19 of 21 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 04:23 PM
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Sorry...why would I pay for your my world I pay for the one I love....Go fund me page for this IMO is an embarrassment.

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We were as poor as church mice when we got married. I was still a student and she was a $75/week bookkeeper. We had an apartment that you had to leave to change your mind. AND IT DID NOT MATTER ONE BIT. We were newlyweds. We had our meals at a card table, because we couldn't afford anything else. We had an old bed that her parents gave us.

When you are in love, the material things don't matter. I would have loved to have given and done more. However, when we reflect on those days, we were pretty damn happy, we had what we wanted, food, shelter, and EACH OTHER. That was all that mattered.

You want to get married, fine. Big production numbers and mega-bucks are unnecessary. If you love her and she loves you, then that is all you really need.

My daughter looks like she is headed toward an engagement this summer. She is a physician, he is an architect. I asked what kind of wedding she wants. She does not want anything splashy. Just good friends and close family. She wants to hang out, eat, drink and dance. And I thank god that she has my wife's good sense.
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Re: Help fulfill a dream

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You don't need a fund raiser you need a well paying job, so rather than waste your time posting on here and probably a ton of other places looking for pennies which is all you'll get, spend that time getting a good job.
I definitely agree, if you don't have the money to spend on this then you should really re-think getting married, at least for now. The early years of marriage are spent managing large expenses and with no money, this will be mostly an exercise in frustration. Your wife will be frustrated there's no money and expect to have new everything: houses, cars you name it. This dooms alot of marriages early on and they never recover.

I feel I must do you the service of asking to ask yourself why you want to get married. Is it just for the idea of marriage and love ever after because if that's what you're seeking you're more than likely are going to be disappointed. Plus, more than half of all marriages fail leaving men responsible for all the debts, mortgages etc. and having to give up a portion of his income for ever. It's a really bad deal for men. I'd hate for you to join the ranks of the many thousands of men who get married with every good intention but who end up broke or stuck in a marriage they wish they could get out of.

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