Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: The Frozen North
Re: Help fulfill a dream
We were as poor as church mice when we got married. I was still a student and she was a $75/week bookkeeper. We had an apartment that you had to leave to change your mind. AND IT DID NOT MATTER ONE BIT. We were newlyweds. We had our meals at a card table, because we couldn't afford anything else. We had an old bed that her parents gave us.
When you are in love, the material things don't matter. I would have loved to have given and done more. However, when we reflect on those days, we were pretty damn happy, we had what we wanted, food, shelter, and EACH OTHER. That was all that mattered.
You want to get married, fine. Big production numbers and mega-bucks are unnecessary. If you love her and she loves you, then that is all you really need.
My daughter looks like she is headed toward an engagement this summer. She is a physician, he is an architect. I asked what kind of wedding she wants. She does not want anything splashy. Just good friends and close family. She wants to hang out, eat, drink and dance. And I thank god that she has my wife's good sense.