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There is a difference between more chores equals less sex and more chores does not equal more sex.
Or better put.

This is not:

1+1=2

This is more like:

1+A+B+C{(X-Y)/(DE)}=2

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Or better put.

This is not:

1+1=2

This is more like:

1+A+B+C{(X-Y)/(DE)}=2
More like this lol

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There is a difference between more chores equals less sex and more chores does not equal more sex.
Not sure what this is supposed to mean? Or how it relates to what I said?

Dug and I have always had regular sex. We're attracted to each other.

But if he were sitting on his ass while I were slaving away, I would not feel loved. And if I do not feel loved . . .

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Hire a maid to clean the house then take your wife out to dinner while the maid is cleaning. It's a guaranteed panty dropper.
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Hire a maid to clean the house then take your wife out to dinner while the maid is cleaning. It's a guaranteed panty dropper.
I like how you think, Bananapeel.

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Not sure what this is supposed to mean? Or how it relates to what I said?

Dug and I have always had regular sex. We're attracted to each other.

But if he were sitting on his ass while I were slaving away, I would not feel loved. And if I do not feel loved . . .
I agree.

What I was saying is that just because him doing less chores would cause you to have less sex, someone else could derive from that if they do more chores that it will increase sex, when there are so many other parts at play, such as needs met/unmet, time spent together, respect, etc.

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someone else could derive from that if they do more chores that it will increase sex
Has this become less of a problem on TAM, or do I filter it out better? It seems to me there were a lot more covert contract type guys on TAM in the past.



Sigh, my wife gives me the speaking treatment.
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I agree.

What I was saying is that just because him doing less chores would cause you to have less sex, someone else could derive from that if they do more chores that it will increase sex, when there are so many other parts at play, such as needs met/unmet, time spent together, respect, etc.
I agree there are many factors.

But a man's pulling his weight around the house is just attractive.

I remember back in the late 70s, early 80s, before this was necessarily common (at least in my family), one of my bils was known for helping around the house. He was the first to get up after a meal and start washing dishes, sweeping floors, etc.

He was well respected among all my sisters for that, far. Never complained about it, either. He knew things needed to be done, and he took the lead in doing them.

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This post has merit. I do want to point something out, however.

Did he ask you:

A. Because he truly does not know.

B. Because you are particular about how you want it done, and criticize when not done to that standard.

I would tell you that for a while, there was a lot of B in my household. Now if she complains about how I do something (obvious exception being if I miss something, etc.), I give her two options:

A. The she does it herself.

B. That she keeps her unnecessarily critical commentary to herself.
One interesting issue I had a while back, my W would get upset b/c I didn't see the house as she saw it. What she considered a mess I didn't consider a mess. The fact was though, she was home most of the day (either on maternity leave or working part time). However, for myself, I am rarely home during the week (usually get home with enough time to eat something quick, spend some time with family, go to bed, rinse & repeat). We were coming from two completely different POVs, neither was right or wrong. If I was home all day, I am sure I would see the house differently (likewise if my W was out of the house all day). The problem, as much as I tried to explain this to her, it was always the "You should just know" response. Even if I made more of a conscious effort, it was not reasonable to suddenly expect me to see things as she sees, and it was a bit off putting that she made no effort to see things from my POV. Eventually this got sorted out and we are on the same page (or close enough lol).
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It's a single five year old study done in Norway. Next.
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This post has merit. I do want to point something out, however.

Did he ask you:

A. Because he truly does not know.

B. Because you are particular about how you want it done, and criticize when not done to that standard.
He asks me because he thinks I want him to, because he was raised by a *****-whipped silent shell of a father. Actual, he was raised by the *****-whipper - I doubt his father had ANY input into how he was raised. I have explained repeatedly that acting like his father is a huge turn off to me but overcoming his programming is proving quite difficult. I am probably the least critical woman I know - I honestly couldn't give a crap what fridge dish you put the chicken in. He's the kind of guy who, if he'd met up with a woman who decided to take advantage of him, she'd be rich and have ten lovers today and he'd be pregnant barefoot and in the kitchen.
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It's a single five year old study done in Norway. Next.
Jeez dude, it's just a discussion starter. Chill.
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Jeez dude, it's just a discussion starter. Chill.


I stopped stalking you. Please do me the same.

I give my opinion and you have to start crap. WTF?
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I stopped stalking you. Please do me the same.

I give my opinion and you have to start crap. WTF?
Stalking you?? Allrighty then You're all over the board lately making snide little comments - it's kind of hard to miss. I say this with true caring - perhaps you need a wee break from the board??
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