I have a boyfriend. He is a single dad of teen kids and his mother lives with him full time. He is the hardest working guy I know.
Every morning he pops out of bed to throw in a load of laundry, gets his kids up, gets breakfast for everyone, gets mom to the mom sitter, gets kids to school, goes to work, then has to leave in the middle of the day frequently to get someone somewhere or meet an appointment of some kind, gets home, gets kids to sports, gets mom from sitter, gets everyone dinner, gets mom her meds and puts her to bed, does more laundry, does the dishes, cleans up the kitchen, makes sure kids do homework....not to mention making everyone's doctor appointments and other arrangements for school and sports, takes care of his cars and the home he owns, does the shopping for everyone's wardrobe needs and groceries, and everything else you can think of that a household needs. His job is somewhat stressful and he works his ass off to provide for his family. Not to mention the cost of the dozen or so hungry teens that are his kids' friends who come and regularly empty his refrigerator.
His ex has custody a few days a week, but since his kids' school is closest to his house, they always come "home" after school even if it is her night. She picks them up at his house and so they end up there every day of the school week, meaning they make the same messes and they and their friends eat all the food every day, even on her days.
How busy he is makes my head spin!
But it also makes me admire and respect him. It makes me swoon, too. To see him handle all of this, without complaint and almost always with a great attitude and love for his family.......so sexy.
I feel lucky that he can make time for me. My life is no cake walk (especially right now) but I am never, ever as busy as he is, not even close. But yet when he does make time for me, he has plenty of energy for me and is never, ever whiny about his life. He is engaged with his own life and is very good at it. He needs no one....what I do add to his life is just icing for him, and he appreciates it so much....but as far as "needing" me or anyone, nope. He's in charge of his life and family and he takes care of all of it.
He only has a couple of really great dishes that he makes from scratch...but good lord are they GREAT.....he cooks for me usually when I go visit him and I've never loved eating home cooking as much in my life! Prepared for me by this excellent family man in his own home...and then he cleans up the kitchen!
When he comes to my place, we are safer if I order him food than if I make him anything, so I treat him well in the fact that I lavish him with any expensive restaurant food of his choice and serve it to him with love and appreciation for how much he does for everyone else.
Does his household habits get him laid more?
All I know is that he turns me on greatly, and his attitude and fortitude make him even more attractive to me. The way he loves and takes care of his kids and mother make me feel all warm and fuzzy for him, which do also increase my attraction. Him doing these things has NOTHING to do with me, and yet they make me want to boink him every chance I can get.