Some people have been uncharacteristically hard on you in here. But your defensiveness makes it look like maybe they had good reason.
All your posts are filled with disrespectful judgments about your wife. OK, maybe she IS an irredeemably mad cow in which case all you can do is leave. But what if she is actually a normal human being who feels hurt and resentful because of your, and your son(s) continual dismissive and disrespectful attitudes?
It's actually VERY common to be disrespectful of your spouse when you are frustrated (as you are). But when people point out specific examples of your disrespect and try to explain to you how those things might be perceived by someone else, instead of asking more questions about what you might do, or saying "I read that, it gave me some ideas" you seem to just get defensive and double down on what a reasonable person you are and what an irrational psycho she is.
Look, if things used to be wonderful, and now they're not, there is a reason. Assuming she's not mentally ill, a happy spouse does not "magically" become bitter, critical, and resentful and start berating their beloved for no reason. We are trying to help you discover what the reason might be so you can do something about it.
Taking your spouse into consideration given the fact that all your actions and inaction affect them is called being a mature adult, not "not wearing any pants." There are ways to handle situations where you are NOT caving into unreasonable demands but you are also NOT exacerbating the situation with your own disrespect, judgments, etc.
someone what to do is rude and annoying. If she is barking orders and criticisms at you while you're driving, I recommend calmly informing her that you don't like her telling you what to do in the middle of driving and asking her if she has any special requests about what route you will be taking before you embark on the drive. Then if she barks orders at you regardless, say "Please don't talk to me that way" and just keep driving your way.
Ha, well this is a bit of a segue from the main topic, but my wife is a VERY aggressive driver. I usually like to drive when we're together. She's had several accidents in the past (and again, we each have our own insurance plans, because I have a perfect driving record and low insurance and want to keep it that way!). She says most of the accidents weren't her fault, and at least 2-3 times a month she tells me how she almost got hit driving to work or back. Now, I do work from home, but believe me, I can put miles on my car...about as much as she does! I'm not a slow driver either...I typically do about 10 mph over the speed limit (it it allows). But she will ask me where I'm going when we drive somewhere together, or to park in that spot, or do this, or do that. It might that I like to take a different way, that's all. I have my way, you have yours. She's lived here her whole life, I'm a transplant. I don't know every single "back way", and I tend to go the same routes I'm used to. Nothing wrong with that. Woops, here I go complaining again. It's very easy to read something and think that it's a complaint, when in reality, it's expressing yourself and your position in a matter. I mean, how can you tell anyone anything without stating it? Enter my anonymous comments now: As for mr. web browser extraordinaire is concerned, I think he doesn't really wear any pants at all. Sure honey, I'll do as you please, each and every time you ask it of me. I don't have thoughts and opinions of my own, just yours baby cakes. And no, I'm not being chauvinistic here, I'm not an ******* guy, unless I get pushed there. And, as a few have latched on to, I don't ignore my wife's requests. There are some that are just over the top crazy. And guess what, I have a brain that I actually know how to use, and I have an opinion to boot! So what many of you are saying is, ahh, just do what she asks of you every time without question and we will live happily ever after. Hmm, that sounds very one-sided to me. I'll just assume that you always do as your told, like a good little girl or boy, or you're single for a variety of reasons which are of none of my concern.