Very good to know! Thank you!!!!
You're very welcome. Considering how a Catholic gentleman is supposed to behave courting a woman, it would be easy for a modern woman to mistake his behavior for lack of interest. Add in any conflict he may feel because he desires to date and have a romantic partner when his faith forbids it (assuming no Annulment) and I imagine it's even harder to express interest in the ways secular society would understand.
Not all Catholics are the same. Some are more willing to bend or break the rules. It's not uncommon for Catholics to have pre-marital sex or to use artificial birth control, for example. Others stick more closely to the rules. A devout Catholic isn't likely to round 3rd base while dating if he's the sticking to the rules kind.
Also, devout Catholics tend to take their time deciding on a spouse since we're taught divorce cannot dissolve a marriage. Some more secular people have a hard time dating an abstinent Catholic for an indeterminate amount of time until they either marry or split up. It's something to consider if you'd want sex before marriage so that you know you're compatible in that area before vowing a lifetime.
I literally had to get a note from my mother to marry my catholic wife. I brought a minister and she brought a priest and we married in a Catholic Church. We went to precana but they didn't make us commit to raise our kids catholic and we didn't. W got a dispensation to marry me I guess (ya know cause she was a good catholic girl
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How the Church handled these situations differs by era. At one point, Catholics couldn't validly marry any non-Catholic. At another time, a Catholic could marry outside the faith, but only to another Christian. Now, a Catholic can validly marry anyone of any faith or no faith at all.
At one point, both the Catholic and the non-Catholic party had to promise to raise any children born of the union as Catholics. At another point, only the Catholic party had to make that promise and the non-Catholic party signed a document saying they were aware of the promise. Most recently, the Catholic party promises to "try their best" to raise any children in the faith and the non-Catholic signs they are aware of the promise.
You and your wife probably did sign some form of the above mentioned promises, but don't remember in in the stack of paperwork required to marry. Pre-cana can be hit and miss. Same with Catechism and other Sacramental preparation/religious education classes. Some aren't very thorough and things are often not explained as clearly as they should be. This is a longstanding problem in the Church, complained about regularly by pretty much everyone, that is slowly but surely being addressed. It's not uncommon for the priest doing the marriage paperwork to think the pre-cana classes covered the promises while the pre-cana classes leader(s) assumed the priest would discuss the promises. So, the documents are signed, the permissions to marry are given, and the marriage takes place.
Hold out for a NORMAL guy! You have already put in your time with a NOT normal man, time for some FUN!
There's nothing abnormal about a person who practices a religion that forbids pre-marital sex. It's funny. On this forum, women complain about men who don't show interest by some kind of physical sexual contact. The idea of having a serious long term possibly leading to marriage relationship without sex is nearly shocking in modern times among liberal Christians and secular folks alike. Some think marrying without having sex first is insane. On my religious based forums, women are complaining it's hard to find a man that is willing to wait until marriage.
You didn't do anything wrong at all.
He thinks you're a cool girl, easy to talk too, would make a great friend but he's not feeling any chemistry.
I think he tried his best giving you multiple dates but it's just not happening for him. That's my manly take.
I think he's refraining due to his faith beliefs, you think he's just not into @AVR1962
. Easily settled. ASK HIM, woman!! Just ask if he's attracted to you or have you been friend zoned.