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post #76 of 85 (permalink) Old 03-29-2017, 08:36 AM Thread Starter
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I think I figured this out....I received a text from this man last night telling me that a Bishop friend of his was visiting for a few days. More dedicated this is religious beliefs than I realized, I think. All well and fine but I don't think I fit into that picture.
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I think I figured this out....I received a text from this man last night telling me that a Bishop friend of his was visiting for a few days. More dedicated this is religious beliefs than I realized, I think. All well and fine but I don't think I fit into that picture.


You can be his hot, wild friend who he lives vicariously through then


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Makes sense now why he said he was having some confusion and could not give to me fully!!!
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Makes sense now why he said he was having some confusion and could not give to me fully!!!


So tell us about the upcoming date Saturday night?
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So tell us about the upcoming date Saturday night?
We just sat by the lake and talked over wine. There was a slight breeze blowing and sitting by the lake was so peaceful. He and I have been talking about childhood memories and events growing up.
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I used to drive 45min each way to get my GF for dates or she would drive over. But at least she'd spend 1-2 nights over.

Two+ months of no intimacy. He seems devoted to church and needs a gal who is more available. IMHO not many men would spend months staying in the friend zone. No fireworks.

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I used to drive 45min each way to get my GF for dates or she would drive over. But at least she'd spend 1-2 nights over.

Two+ months of no intimacy. He send devoted to church and needs a gal who is more available. IMHO not many men would spend months staying in friend zone. No fireworks.
Thanks for the input. He sends sweet text messages, we talk several times a week and the times we have seen one another he has been very respectful and has not tried to move closer physically. He had told me how attracted he is to me and how beautiful he thinks I am and how he appreciates that I have kept myself in shape. He brought up the subject of physical relationships and said that he felt people rushed into them too quickly and then were unhappy and he wanted to get to know me.

Do guys like this not exist? Am I being fed a line? Why would he still be contacting me if he wasn't interested in getting to know me like he has mentioned? We shares pics and talk about our days work and our days growing up. We joke but yet he is mostly serious, thank goodness....he doesn't have to be the funny guy and I am very thankful for that!

It is certainly not ideal with us being 50 minutes apart but I am also not sure I am ready for more. It has been just over 8 months since I left my ex and while I feel I made a wise choice to leave there has been alot of settling in to a new location, adjustments to make to my life in a new area and some emotional ups and downs to deal with so I am very thankful for the friendship if that is all this turns out to be.

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Can't help you too much more than what I said... We were was willing to travel, I lived in a better city and had clients out here - she happened to have lost her job, so it made more sense for her to come more to me. You two are settled in your locations. To get closer means someone is going to have to move. Even when I was single, I had my own rules to NOT date a woman more than 20mins away. The woman I dated before my wife, lived 2 minutes away - no sparks, not chemistry. I had sex with my wife a few hours after I met her when she said "hi" to me, that was 6 years ago - I do hope she is my one and only.

I think if he went physical, it would make the desire stronger. And make the distance more of an issue. I am not a religious person and don't go by the rules of any particular flavor of anyone's moral ideas on when it's okay to have consenting sex with another person. Rushed quickly? Meh, normally people are having sex within date 1~3, after date 5 its time to move on.
Sex is a bonding agent of people, if that is what they want. The black and white thing is (should be) as non-issue. That is my relationship, and I don't think of my wife as "my white wife" - she is just "wife" who I love dearly.

If he says he's attracted to you, then take him at his word... but as you say - 50min apart is not ideal. It'll be easier to support each other as friends... meet a man that is a LOT closer to you.

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Sure he could be feeding you a line, sure the church can be more important and sure he can be one of those guys the media has women convinced don't exist. I know you are back into dating, but I thought this is what it was about. You know, taking a chance on someone and if it doesn't work out, learn from the experience. Of course, don't waste years, but a few months, half a year..... Meh.
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Oh.. I forgot I dated a mother of two once. She was smart, fun, sexy, etc. She lived 50+ min away. Her school ages kids were not going to be moved and I wouldn't dare ask.. GF material. So that faded away. We have to balance our options sometime.
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