Re: Men, What Did I Do Wrong
Can't help you too much more than what I said... We were was willing to travel, I lived in a better city and had clients out here - she happened to have lost her job, so it made more sense for her to come more to me. You two are settled in your locations. To get closer means someone is going to have to move. Even when I was single, I had my own rules to NOT date a woman more than 20mins away. The woman I dated before my wife, lived 2 minutes away - no sparks, not chemistry. I had sex with my wife a few hours after I met her when she said "hi" to me, that was 6 years ago - I do hope she is my one and only.
I think if he went physical, it would make the desire stronger. And make the distance more of an issue. I am not a religious person and don't go by the rules of any particular flavor of anyone's moral ideas on when it's okay to have consenting sex with another person. Rushed quickly? Meh, normally people are having sex within date 1~3, after date 5 its time to move on.
Sex is a bonding agent of people, if that is what they want. The black and white thing is (should be) as non-issue. That is my relationship, and I don't think of my wife as "my white wife" - she is just "wife" who I love dearly.
If he says he's attracted to you, then take him at his word... but as you say - 50min apart is not ideal. It'll be easier to support each other as friends... meet a man that is a LOT closer to you.
Supporting those who want to divorce or reconcile. Not every relationship is the same.