This thread is a complete SNAFU. As I've read it I've had several comments to make, but as soon as I think of one the topic shifts to something else. So in a foolish and vain attempt to catch up, I'm going to ask some questions that truthfully I don't expect satisfactory answers to.
- What is emotional intelligence? How is it measured? How do you test it? How and where is it taught?
- Why is it considered inadequate to make decisions based on numbers rather than on feelings?
- If men are the same as women, what is the big deal with same sex relationships? Cross dressing?
- And Why am I only attracted to one sort?
- It's Cunningham, not Cuttingham.
- How does @lifeistooshort
's model fit with Jamaica?
As I remember it.... there several types of intelligence. Intellectual is one and emotional is another. I have since read that there are nine more types which I can not recall at the moment.
Intellectual is obvious. Emotional is the ability to interact with people. Some people are genius at it. They can tell what you are feeling by a look on your face or a tone in your voice. It seems much harder to do on the net. Genius emotional people can manipulate others easily because of this talent. The thing I remember from the Dan Goleman book was a question: Smart people often have a boss. The Boss may not know what his employee knows but knows how to get the employee to do what he needs.
I don't know how you test it. Emotionally smart people are often the happiest people you meet. Not because they have money or power but because they have satisfaction.
I'm sure the book, Emotional Intelligence is still available but I suppose that the ideas set forward in the book have been updated.
Numbers over feelings is fine in the right circumstances. Logic is great. Humans are not necessarily logical all of the time. It is the result of evolution I believe. Everything we are is the culmination of trillions of choices. We and our feelings are a result. Intuition is an example of non logic. How does one pick a life partner? In some cultures it is the parents choice. In others we are left to discover the intuitive part of ourselves. Emotions seem to be intuitive. Compound that with rational and irrational intuition. Betting on horse because you like the jockeys shirt is irrational. Sifting through the odds and picking two horses you are left to choose between 2 equal possibilities. Use your best guess.
If men are the same as women, what is the big deal with same sex relationships? Cross dressing?
Human sexuality is the most difficult of all subjects to understand for me. I have thought a lot about it. First of all it takes place entirely in the mind. The body is the vehicle to manifest sexuality. Why the non-standard sexuality? I think it a combination of factors. I like the concept of imprinting. Like a new born duckling immediately bonds to the first thing it sees, humans also imprint. Sexuality involves arousal and at an early age arousal is associated with various triggers. When combined with a flood of hormones pumped into our systems there is a stronger than normal link made between various triggers and memory. In other words a touch resulting in sexual arousal yields a forever connection. We know that strong memories of anything are associated with a hormonal surge.
I'm still working on the above.
The only thing I remember about Jamaica is the ganja.