Re: Tired of failings being blamed on Maleness.
Thank you for starting a separate thread. This has become interesting . I don't know if it the proper way to discuss these things but it would be helpful from my perspective to know something about the person I'm talking to. I believe that we all view and state the world through the filter of our own experiences. In that light
a person with negative relationship experiences will have a filter much different than my own.
I suggest ground rules. As in a brief description of your "filter".
My filter: Married 50 years, no divorce, no infidelity, 75 years old, 3 sons, 3 d-i-ls, all happily married, 7 grand daughters, many long tern friends.
To: Sokillme, I have read "Emotional Intelligence" by Dan Goleman many years ago. The point which I was so poor at delivering, of my posts was to offer hope to a young person based on my experience and my observations. Boys are not men. Often boys become men. Even in that case it does not happen overnight. It happens over time. Individuals mature at different rates. That should go without saying.
If Homer or Peter suddenly grew into mature men the shows would soon be off the air. I grew up during the days of Ozzie and Harriet (I think Ozzie may have been a terrible father despite his depiction on TV), Leave it to Beaver (Ward was a very good example) and Father Knows Best (they slept in separate beds).
This is where we came from example wise.