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post #16 of 19 (permalink) Old 03-27-2017, 03:48 PM Thread Starter
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Re: Moments of infactuation

Been listening to this song during attempts at self-wiring to ensure I don't step out:

Helps to dispel the thoughts temporarily at least until my crush texts me or I see her again, and I find myself losing focus when I'm with my girlfriend.
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Re: Moments of infactuation

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The issue is that she has not made up her mind on choosing between her family and me, it's a long story, put it this way, she's not a PR here. She can be one at her own accord, but she has not made her choice and the deadline is coming soon. So I'm not 100% either. It's already been several months, soon to be a year, so it's abit past early stages.

I agree that my mind is filling in the blanks when it comes to the infatuation, and it's disturbing because I don't seem to be in control, not to mention my studies force me to see her, and she's part of my new circle of friends. My girlfriend and I are opposites, from personality to interests, it attracted at first, but now it seems I'm drawn to someone else who actually shares my passions and interests, and who I don't have to worry about flying off back overseas.
Per the bolded though, is the whole relocating / flying overseas the only issue? If you look at the bolded, it appears there is more to it. If she decided that she chooses you, can you just that easily shut this other person off, or the next female you meet who shows an interest in you (has more in common with you then your current GF), or the next one after that, etc... ??? That would be the bigger concern, and maybe your current GF is just not the one for you to settle down with.
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Re: Moments of infactuation

Yeah, if you're not sure how you feel about her then don't force her reach a decision yet because it'd be very unfair of you.
You're still not sure how you feel about her, yet you want her to choose between you and the family. It's like asking her to change her life upside-down when you don't even know what you want out of this relationship. It's not that you're marrying her or anything, so I think you should re-think her possibility of relocating to you.

Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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Re: Moments of infactuation

The opposites thing is a plus as well as an issue so it's not as big as the possibility of her flying back to her home country to take care of her family. It's not me that's given her a deadline for her decision, it's immigration/her family. She may return overseas for a year at least until her family situation is more settled, and I told her there's no chance I'm relocating for her due to my daughter. Guess this makes me more vulnerable to infatuation.
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