Re: Who should pay on dates?
Paying for dates isn't at all about trying to buy sex, it's about taking charge and taking care of the other person. From my perspective we all have very busy lives full of commitments and stresses, and dating should be a reprieve from them. When I date I like to usually be the one to plan the evening, choose the venue, and cover the cost, this way the woman gets to just go out and relax, enjoy herself, and appreciate being taken care of. This is a way for her to shed life's normal dynamic where she's taking care of others (work/kids/whatever) and lets her feel appreciated. The way she "pays" her part of the evening is just by relaxing and being good company, and I do my best to setup the situation so that it is easy for her. Her taking on the traditional female role is part of this scenario, and it works great. If she offers to occasionally take me out, well that is a nice gesture. I also don't personally value the financial cost of paying for the date very highly because I have enough money that it's really no big deal, so I never figure she "owes" me sex or anything other than pleasant company. I take charge on cheap dates too, such as hiking, evenings at home, etc. since it fits my personality.