Re: Who should pay on dates?
Context is everything.
I dated A LOT just a few short years ago.
My opinion is, that if you are older than 40, and you are calling the shots on where and when a date takes place ... then you pay. It's simple.
The other factor is attraction. A woman will offer to pay as a measure to manage or control the dating transaction ... or because she's very attracted to, and comfortable with her date.
I had a number of women offer to split or pay for a date ... or straight up have the check delivered to them. I would always look them in the eye and say, "I'm happy to take the check, are you sure you want to do that?"
And if she said, yes ... I let her.
To many women, the act is empowering. It makes a statement about them, what they want ... and can do as well. It's an act of independence and a statement that she's absolutely capable of taking care of herself ... and at her discretion, me too.
I notably had a date with a woman (successful business owner) and she picked up a $300.00 tab. She paid the bill behind my back. I asked for the check and the waitress said it had already been taken care of. That was something I would often do. I thought it was a ballsy move on her part. We had a blast. Dated for a few months before deciding to part ways.
For the younger set ... they have a completely different dynamic, which I can't claim to understand. I do feel comfortable stating however, that the overall expectation that a man ALWAYS pays, has gone the way of the dodo.
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