Re: Who should pay on dates?
This would be the perfect sequence with me. Regardless of who asked, I would pay for a first date. Would politely insist on paying for the first date.
That said - some type of reciprocity in later dates, would be very welcome. But generally, I wouldn't be looking for financial reciprocity, just some type of reciprocity.
I agree, MEM. Both people want to feel respected and appreciated.
I bought a book back in the early 90s called What Smart Women Know.
It's still on my bookshelf.
The authors, one male and one female, and both feminists, I believe, said that the man should at least offer to pay for the first date.
When even feminist *men* are advising that, I think it is only wise to listen.
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man