Re: FWB-how do you handle it?
The idea that men are expecting to marry virgins went away about the same time as the pony express.But there is still a double standard,it's just more subtle.Most men accept that women they meet have had a previous sex life but the men don't really want to think about it.Its why when a couple are discussing the previous partners count,men exaggerate and women minimise.It's still a double standard and inherently unfair to the woman in the relationship because the imaginary women the male says he has slept with aren't going to appear to contradict him but the woman may be "found out" if she inadvertently lets something slip or if she falls out with a friend and the friend reveals the truth to cause trouble.
The bolded is unfortunate. I have a lot of respect for men with a low partner count.
I think each sex should be honest with the other about that, right from the beginning.
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man