Exactly! This is what I was talking about in my previous posts. As unfair as it is, some men will still take into account the number of ex-partners that his SO had in the past, before deciding to marry her...especially when it comes to a possible FWB-relation that she used to experience.
There is nothing fair or unfair about it. People are allowed to have choices in a mate. What you advocate in the last post was lying to them to give yourself more choices. This post and this one makes you sound pretty entitled. It's no different then if you are not religious and you don't want to be with someone who is. Do you advocate lying about that too?
People make all kinds of choices about who they want in a mate and why. Why is the number of sex partners any more or less fair then any other reason exactly?
Some people see sex as sacred and want it to be unique and special to them as a couple. I looked at it this way say I wanted to travel the world with my mate, but I didn't want to be with a mate who had been to all the places we could go to before with someone else. There is nothing wrong or unfair about that. What's even worse is when your mate tells you they have been to Paris with some other person and didn't like it, so they are never going to Paris again. Meanwhile you never got to go to Paris with them. This happens a lot as far as I can see.
By the way, I am a man and I never had sex with anyone other then who I loved, and I haven't loved many people. I also have no problem if you don't feel that way. It's just girls that thought that way wouldn't be my type. Actually girls that liked me found that out quick as I wasn't interested in sleeping with them, I told them why and most weren't interested in me at that point. To me sex is way to intimate to just do it with a stranger. FWB I could do, but I figured since I am have to get to the friends stage anyway why not just save it for love. I didn't ever want it to be like getting a cup of coffee.
Personally I know I will get killed for this but I think the cup of coffee idea is why people find it so easy to cheat today. If you see it as just something as common as getting coffee what's the big deal with cheating anyway. It's just coffee.
My next question is why would you want to be with someone who thinks so fundamentally different they you on sex that you have to hide who you are?
This is just a terrible way of thinking about it, especially in today's day an age when there are plenty of men who don't care. **** there is a whole subset of men who want there wives to go out and sleep with other men. Then there is this. and this.
But no one wants to talk about that!