Re: FWB-how do you handle it?
I've had a few past friends (female) who would prefer fwb. I couldn't do it personally because sex is a bonding act for me, of the strongest kind, and I'd rather not put myself in a crash & burn scenario with someone temporary.
My friends all spoke highly of their fwbs, that is until they started to desire more of a connection from the constant sex/orgasms and promptly found themselves dumped after working up the courage to ask for more.
They knew what they were doing, but I'd hear no end of lamenting. One threatened to commit suicide. I remember talking her down and helping to get her into therapy.
I know that some women can compartmentalize sex and strong feelings, but I really do not think it is a common ability. Or, they truly think they can compartmentalize, and maybe they do for a while, but they eventually get attached.
I didn't intend to deviate from the topic, which was how does one handle their fwb. From my 3rd party perspective experience, the way my friends handled it was varied, but each of them seemed to be missing something from their lives, something they couldn't quite articulate. They may have been sexually satisfied, but I wouldn't call them happy. Maybe they were not the real stuff of fwb. Maybe they did want a stronger relationship but weren't ready and just wanted sex? I'm really not sure. I lost touch with them all when I moved back to my home country.
"If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life."
~ Abraham Maslow