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Been on 3 dates with this woman and just wondering at what point does she offer to pay? Dating can become costly and I had to make up an excuse not to see her this weekend because my funds are tight

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Been on 3 dates with this woman and just wondering at what point does she offer to pay? Dating can become costly and I had to make up an excuse not to see her this weekend because my funds are tight

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How about just being honest with her?

One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
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How about just being honest with her?
I figured it would be a turnoff to mention funds are tight
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I remember those days. She won't offer to pay until your honest with her. I would just say money is tight for you right now. We can make dinner at my place and hangout. She'll either offer to pay for next date or she'll come over. If she doesn't do either one of those she's not worth your time.

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I figured it would be a turnoff to mention funds are tight
So what if it is? Honesty is a sorter.

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I remember those days. She won't offer to pay until your honest with her. I would just say money is tight for you right now. We can make dinner at my place and hangout. She'll either offer to pay for next date or she'll come over. If she doesn't do either one of those she's not worth your time.

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This reminds me when I met my wife. I had a terrible job at the time and she worked 3 jobs. We just started dating and she said let's go on a trip. I told her I have no money. She said I'll pay for it. Sweet!

Of course I chipped in a little but she covered majority of the expenses. 2 days of bunny humping fun!

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This reminds me when I met my wife. I had a terrible job at the time and she worked 3 jobs. We just started dating and she said let's go on a trip. I told her I have no money. She said I'll pay for it. Sweet!

Of course I chipped in a little but she covered majority of the expenses. 2 days of bunny humping fun!

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And she has passed the test of contacting me first sometimes in between dates so it's not like she is just looking for a free outing. So I will see what happens when I mention it
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And she has passed the test of contacting me first sometimes in between dates so it's not like she is just looking for a free outing. So I will see what happens when I mention it
That's cool. I'm sure it will work out for ya. Keep us posted.

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If it's a turn-off; you know she's not the woman for you.

So beautiful in it's simplicity.
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You might try inviting her for fun, but inexpensive dates. A picnic in the park, a walk along the beach etc.
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I agree with inviting her over to make her dinner- that is definitively NOT a turn off for many women.
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Concentrate on your career until you can afford to date.
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Concentrate on your career until you can afford to date.
This. It goes for women too- many relationship experts recommend that women getting back into the dating world up their game by making an effort to dress in up-to-date clothing and afford attractive grooming costs (though everyone's taste and mileage may vary, obviously).

Dating (like most things) costs money.
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And she has passed the test of contacting me first sometimes in between dates so it's not like she is just looking for a free outing. So I will see what happens when I mention it
Why not meet for a couple of beers,it needn't cost much.If you can't afford to date this woman then tell her,if she walks away you will know she wasn't for you but chances are she will offer to pay or else suggest cooking at her or your place.In my opinion if finances aren't a problem then the guy should pay but if they are then just talk about it.
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