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post #16 of 66 (permalink) Old 04-11-2017, 10:15 AM
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Re: Describe your ideal wife

there are lot's of great qualities in a wife and most of them are described above.

but the first thing that popped into my head (besides looks, which is obvious) is a Tom Petty cover of the song "she's a woman in love'.

in the song, Petty describes a woman who (at least used to be) 'lets the little things go'.

I can tell you, many, many men appreciate a woman who doesn't nag, get after her man all the time, press him unduly and just let's 'the little things go'.
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Trick question. What works for me or other guys here doesn't mean it works for your husband.

Some guys want a strong woman as their wife. Some want a Slave or submissive (not bdsm) some want an equal.

To bad your husband isn't talking much... It's not healthy for the marriage.

Easy list for me and I gather typical guys.
Sex. Cooking and not nagging.

If a woman can cook... Keep her.
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I think about this daily...since my wife is so far from ideal. -- edit down --

I'll stop right there since I know this person doesn't exist.
Nobody is perfect. But I have little to complain about my wife. I wish she and I were not stressed. That she thinks she needs Breast enlargement (wants to go from A to C) and some minor crap that I can't think about at the moment.
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Trick question. What works for me or other guys here doesn't mean it works for your husband.

Some guys want a strong woman as their wife. Some want a Slave or submissive (not bdsm) some want an equal.

To bad your husband isn't talking much... It's not healthy for the marriage.

Easy list for me and I gather typical guys.
Sex. Cooking and not nagging.

If a woman can cook... Keep her.
My wife is a great cook but a disaster in every other category.

"I've paid double for every transgression I've ever made and that motel and that boat are little to ask for"
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Trick question. What works for me or other guys here doesn't mean it works for your husband.

Some guys want a strong woman as their wife. Some want a Slave or submissive (not bdsm) some want an equal.

To bad your husband isn't talking much... It's not healthy for the marriage.

Easy list for me and I gather typical guys.
Sex. Cooking and not nagging.

If a woman can cook... Keep her.
My partner can't cook.But everything else......
And I allready have a cook.
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If I had to distill it down to something pithy, it would be a woman who makes me feel like I am #1 in her book for everything.
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Re: Describe your ideal wife

How can I add anything to these great posts.
To do so would be to repeat and echo. OK...I shall and add.

Yes, these.
A wife who is:

a] Friendly....with everyone. Is not a hater.
b] Calm
c] Smart
d] Happy in her own skin
e] COMPATIBLE.....for me, loves to exercise, is not a couch potato....what? Run, bike, swim, walk, hike mountains, scuba dive, canoe/kayak, camping, skiing, cross country skiing. When she gets old, she does them slower, as do I.
f] Loves me for what and who I am. Enjoys sex and plenty of it, in safe, quiet places, unexpected. In a tent, in the woods while hiking. At night in the backyard while looking up at the stars.
g] 100% loyal...to me, our children.
h] Fears God, but little else. Is not afraid to travel, to explore the world.
i] Has Faith...is optimistic....not foolishly so, of course.
j] Loves to travel...everywhere reasonable. From the Yukon to the Bahamas, to Israel, to Patagonia, to Aussie Land, Iceland, eastern Europe..whatever we can afford. Is not afraid to get wet, muddy and cold.
k] Is somewhat frugal. Is willing to stay in regular hotels
l] A good money manager. At the same time willing to enjoy life.
m] Has a good outlook on life. Is thankful for being alive.
n] Is loyal in sickness and in health.

Naturally, I should be happy and obliged to be the person that she wants. It takes two.

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

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There is no such thing as "perfect" when it comes to human beings, let alone a spouse. We are ALL flawed, and will continuously fall short of whatever "perfect" may be.

As long as both spouses are fully invested in the other emotionally, physically, and spiritually, there will be fewer "flaws" that become problems. A "perfect" wife will do anything she can to please her husband, and most of the time without even being asked to. A "perfect" wife is a best friend, a confident', and someone who is extremely loyal to their husband even when they disagree. She is self-confident, but can be vulnerable, too. She will have fervor, zeal, passion, and be adventurous when it comes to anything that she knows pleases her husband. She never says no. She knows what she likes and is not afraid to ask. She has PASSION in everything she does whether it's sex, child rearing, cooking, housework, etc. She knows how to communicate with her husband both in verbal and nonverbal cues. She can be independent when she needs to be, can make the tough decisions when they are needed, and makes her husband feel wanted. She is God fearing, absolutely adores her husband, and her children. She is a positive role model and influence on those around her. She takes care of herself physically, yet is unafraid of letting her hair down. She knows that she is flawed and makes mistakes, and apologizes accordingly, and is not afraid to point out her husbands mistakes in a positive way so that he can do the same. She is happy, peaceful, and content, and instills the same in her husband.

There will always be things we can improve upon. It's a learning process, as well as a growing process. Your focus on being the "perfect" wife is admirable, and something all men "want", albeit unrealistic. Just the idea that you "want" to be perfect is ideal. That means you are willing to put in the effort, which in turn means you are a VERY good wife already, in my opinion.

My advise would be to keep on the path you are on, and improve on things that need work. To be honest, your "all in" qualities are what ALL men want. Even what you might see as flaws become admirable traits when you have a good attitude about it.
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Men, especially husbands, please describe for me YOUR ideal wife. I don't mean how she looks, I mean how she behaves and how she spends her time, etc.

I really want to be a better wife for my husband, but he doesn't give me any insight when I ask him how I can improve. (There is LOTS of room for improvement, I just don't know what is worth spending time improving.) I think because he is mostly focused on his work and being stressed with that at times, he doesn't really think about where I fall short. That is nice for me, but I want to improve!

We are married 12 years with 4 children 11 and under, 1 not at school yet. I'm a stay at home mum.
The fact that you even care to pose such a question shows that you are probably already a very good wife. Other people's answers are interesting, but the only answer that would be very helpful is your husband's. I could give you my list, but your husband very well might not find those traits to be good traits.
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Isn't the real definition of the 'perfect wife' one who has wild passionate sex with you all night and then turns into a pizza and 6-pack at midnight?
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My wife, but she loves me.
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Isn't the real definition of the 'perfect wife' one who has wild passionate sex with you all night and then turns into a pizza and 6-pack at midnight?

"Life always offers you a second chance. It's called tomorrow."
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Isn't the real definition of the 'perfect wife' one who has wild passionate sex with you all night and then turns into a pizza and 6-pack at midnight?


You left out the chocolate chip cookies.
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loving, faithful,good boundaries.

like sex with me, and even sometimes initiates.

positive outlook.



you have your hands full already with 4 kids.

He should be very happy.
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