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Isn't the real definition of the 'perfect wife' one who has wild passionate sex with you all night and then turns into a pizza and 6-pack at midnight?
They also must be able to reincarnate the next morning before breakfast.
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Trick question. What works for me or other guys here doesn't mean it works for your husband.

Some guys want a strong woman as their wife. Some want a Slave or submissive (not bdsm) some want an equal.

To bad your husband isn't talking much... It's not healthy for the marriage.

Easy list for me and I gather typical guys.
Sex. Cooking and not nagging.

If a woman can cook... Keep her.
Cooking is a nice bonus, but nothing vital for me.
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A man wants a wife who is beautiful and always looks her best.
He wants a wife that is a good cook and keeps the house spotless.
He wants a wife to give him beautiful children.
He wants a wife that loves having sex with him and is open to anything in the bedroom.
He wants a wife that earns lots of money and lets him control all the finances.
He wants a wife that is kind,emphatic and just "gets him".
Problem is that's five wives too many.
Andy, your list is surreal. Such wife hardly ever exists. I think OP wants to know your ideal wife WITHIN reality, not imagination.

Also, if you want the wife just like the one on your list, then you MUST be just as good as her with all those characteristics or BETTER. If you have even 1 of those missing in you, then she won't even consider you.

Not trying to judge you, but I dislike it when men want a SUPERWOMAN to be everything and do everything... then the man? What does he do? He simply enjoys her?

That's not how it works.

Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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Trick question. What works for me or other guys here doesn't mean it works for your husband.

Some guys want a strong woman as their wife. Some want a Slave or submissive (not bdsm) some want an equal.

To bad your husband isn't talking much... It's not healthy for the marriage.

Easy list for me and I gather typical guys.
Sex. Cooking and not nagging.

If a woman can cook... Keep her.
Lol...it reminded me of the expression "Shut the f*ck up and get back in the kitchen..! "

See, I don't know but I find it offensive to expect a wife to know how to cook (although it's pretty normal) because it makes me feel like he expects me to be a servant in the house. I'd rather he not mention the cooking thing at all.

But that's me. Nothing wrong with you.

Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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Nobody is perfect. But I have little to complain about my wife. I wish she and I were not stressed. That she thinks she needs Breast enlargement (wants to go from A to C) and some minor crap that I can't think about at the moment.
Is it a turn off for you when a woman says she wish she changed a physical feature? Does it make her appear like she's not confident?
Or it depends on how much she complains about it and how she deals with it.

Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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Andy, your list is surreal. Such wife hardly ever exists. I think OP wants to know your ideal wife WITHIN reality, not imagination.

Also, if you want the wife just like the one on your list, then you MUST be just as good as her with all those characteristics or BETTER. If you have even 1 of those missing in you, then she won't even consider you.

Not trying to judge you, but I dislike it when men want a SUPERWOMAN to be everything and do everything... then the man? What does he do? He simply enjoys her?

That's not how it works.
Ok.I will leave out the cooking and the money.I have a housekeeper and I make enough money.She gave me a beautiful baby two weeks ago so I will leave that out too.So there is my expectations cut by fifty percent.I think I'm being very reasonable.
On a completely different topic do you have a sense of humour at all.
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Ok.I will leave out the cooking and the money.I have a housekeeper and I make enough money.She gave me a beautiful baby two weeks ago so I will leave that out too.So there is my expectations cut by fifty percent.I think I'm being very reasonable.
On a completely different topic do you have a sense of humour at all.
Yes I do.

Just not with you.

Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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Men, especially husbands, please describe for me YOUR ideal wife. I don't mean how she looks, I mean how she behaves and how she spends her time, etc.

I really want to be a better wife for my husband, but he doesn't give me any insight when I ask him how I can improve. (There is LOTS of room for improvement, I just don't know what is worth spending time improving.) I think because he is mostly focused on his work and being stressed with that at times, he doesn't really think about where I fall short. That is nice for me, but I want to improve!

We are married 12 years with 4 children 11 and under, 1 not at school yet. I'm a stay at home mum.
Based on your comments elsewhere, you ARE (or have become) the perfect wife; at least as far as sex goes (and that' generally a man's greatest need).

Toss in a words of admiration and always being on his side when in the presence of others if you want to go for the trifecta.
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Yes I do.

Just not with you.
Well why did you not realise the list was a joke.Nobody else took it seriously and I posted it before 6am.Im not trying to be a smart ass,I thought you were jerking my chain and was trying to play along.If I offended you I apologise.
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I'm not sure if being well adjusted or not is something we're born with or it's what we become as a result of the company we keep.

A person content with themself and reasonably well adjusted is probably less filled with the inner argument that leads to conflict.

I'm of the thought that my best shot to find such a person is to be as well adjusted as I can be first. If not, I could bring the worst out in her or the worst in myself. I don't feel it means we must have perfect pasts but rather a profound understanding of how we got to where we are.

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mrsluvmyhub,
it's a combination of obvious cliches mixed with little things. Some of the obvious are honestly, trust, security, safety, etc. I need her to be trusting of me as well and just as I understand she's not perfect, she understands that I am not either. I want her to have a kind heart; not just to me but to others around her. The want her to be humble and confident at the same time which is a hard thing to be. I want to be someone I respect and admire. This happens naturally from me seeing her try to be a good mom, good daughter, good wife, and good person. I want her to need me; not because she's emotionally weak but instead because she's emotionally plugged in.

Here's one example of my wife that has made me respect and trust her. When she says she will do something then she does it and I mean the thousands of little things that don't always seem important. In noticing this about her, she's taught me to do the same. So she makes me a better me.

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Nobody is perfect. But I have little to complain about my wife. I wish she and I were not stressed. That she thinks she needs Breast enlargement (wants to go from A to C) and some minor crap that I c..an't think about at the moment.
Is it a turn off for you when a woman says she wish she changed a physical feature? Does it make her appear like she's not confident?
Or it depends on how much she complains about it and how she deals with it.
Both. Like most people, the breasts are an important aspect of being a woman. Both men and women care about size.

To me, I'm not concerned about size but look and feel... And I prefer natural. I've had my fun with perfect fake D cups on a few women. They look and feel strange. There are more shallow guys who live for fake breasts... Bigger is better.

I'm the first man who made her the most comfortable about how she feels about her body... But still wants bigger.

The other post I made about sex and cooking. Is both semi serious and tounge in cheek. It's a lot more complicated than that. A perfect hot chick that cooks but is snotty and rude wouldn't be GF material to me... At most a ONS. And I've dumped possible ONS because I thought they were snotty. Some guys just care about looks... And will marry it. Orange thing.
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I think it depends. In a traditional marriage there are expectations on both the husband and wife. Expecting the wife to know how to cook doesn't seem any more unreasonable than expecting the husband to know how to do plumbing and carpentry.

I don't personally like /want a traditional marriage, but its OK for those who do.

I do want my wife to have a set of skills / talents and she does. I have my own and it would not be a good marriage for either if there was a huge imbalance in what each could contribute.


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Lol...it reminded me of the expression "Shut the f*ck up and get back in the kitchen..! "

See, I don't know but I find it offensive to expect a wife to know how to cook (although it's pretty normal) because it makes me feel like he expects me to be a servant in the house. I'd rather he not mention the cooking thing at all.

But that's me. Nothing wrong with you.
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In addition to the obvious physical attraction requirement, my ideal wife is easy to get along with. Meaning we have compatible values, attitudes, beliefs, and goals. We share enough interests that it's easy to find things to do together or discuss that we both enjoy, so it's easy to be together. She is warm, kind, compassionate, intelligent, creative, adventurous, responsible, and rational. Sex is easy, too, because we are attracted to each other, mutually want to please each other, and have a comparable libido.

Bonus points: athletic; has done martial arts; is agnostic/atheist/Buddhist or not religious; likes to travel; employed; self-motivated; into self-improvement/personal growth.

I don't care if she can cook; I don't care about a meticulous housekeeper as long as she's clean, and not a slob; I don't care if she has advanced education (but it would be nice).

Love is an ideal thing; marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Emma Watson except with red hair. A possible android that I can program all the traits I want. For example, high maintenance, super critical, but as long as they are sexy, I can live with it just because in terms of attraction they are far above me. I like the challenge to see how low my self-esteem can sink.

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