Re: Describe your ideal wife
A wife who makes her husband feel special, loved, wanted, and respected.
I would recommend some of the excellent marriage relationship books. "5 Love Languages" first and foremost. "Getting the Love You Want", "His Needs, Her Needs", and "Hold Me Tight" would be some others.
Generally speaking, men want their wife to respect them and to desire them sexually. If he feels that from you he will probably be very happy. Also, men generally need what they call "domestic support", meaning a wife who is good with the house and kids. Men and women seem to naturally have different abilities and awareness of domestic things. This may be a need he isn't consciously aware of but if the home arena is well organized it probably helps him feel "at home" with you. You can certainly organize a to-do list for him so he does his share of the work, but he may need you to organize things rather than wait for him to see the carpet needs to be vacuumed.
Going back to "5 Love Languages", most men are high on Touch and Quality Time. I like the book but it isn't perfect or comprehensive, though it is a great start. Touch can be hugs, sex, holding hands, leaning against him on the couch watching tv, putting your hand on his shoulder if you walk up behind him while he's sitting at the table or using the computer, etc. Quality time is doing stuff with him. So when he goes to the hardware store to get some nails, just go with him! Don't run off in a different direction in the store to get a few things on your list, walk around the store with him to get all the things on both of your lists. Realize that (if he is a Quality Time person) just doing something with you is bonding for him. Walking the dog together. You see it as a chore and would do it alone or send him alone to do it, but if you go together it makes him feel loved.
As a quick editorial note, I think they got sex wrong in "5 Love Languages". Jmho, but sex is a separate category which entails any or all of the other 5. Words of Affirmation can be part of sex. Sex isn't just Touch.
If your husband likes to play a sport, go with him to a game and cheer him on. Or, go to the store with him when he buys a new piece of gear. Show interest when he explains something about it. This Quality Time is very similar to how women need someone to just listen sometimes. You don't want him to fix anything, you just want him to listen and hear you while you tell him about something. Same thing here, just show interest in that thing he is talking about because it will make him feel respected. That's your motivation for being interested. Not that you should feign interest sitting through hours of watching a cricket match every week (I picked the most boring sport I could think of, sorry friends from the UK!). The sport is still his thing, not yours, but he sees you respect his interest and knowledge of it.