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post #1 of 31 (permalink) Old 04-13-2017, 04:32 PM Thread Starter
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Are You Her Preferred Look?

Just a light-hearted conversation about physical preferences. Being a child of the 80's my girlfriend has always liked men with that typical 'boy band' look. The skinny bodies, the baby smooth skin, grungy clothes, earnings, floppy hair and that little boy lost attitude with a side serving of effemininity. Yet here I am with a shaved head, a beard, well fitting clothes in a body that's been lifting weights for the past two decades, certainly no earrings or 'bling' (just not for me thanks) and what I like to think is a very masculine attitude. She doesn't seem to mind. She isn't embarrassed to be seen with me and our sex life is extremely healthy but she still notices a typical 'pretty boy' on the television on occasion. I have no issue with this, not yet at least.

So gentlemen, do you match your partner's preferred look or have you ever tried to emulate it?

And ladies, does your partner match your preferred look or are they the complete opposite?
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Re: Are You Her Preferred Look?

Well...

When she met me, I had very long hair and a bad boy rep.

She fell in lust and then love.

I now have very short hair and an upstanding rep.

She is still in lust and love with me.

I have almost always had a 5 O' clock shadow and am currently sporting a modified goaty.

She loves it.

I use to be pretty but hard, now I'm just hard! LOL

She can't get enough.

She wasn't my ideal but I fell head over heels in love with her at first sight.

She is a 5' petite brunette with a playboy body.

I dated mostly tall or exotic women before meeting her.

Now short is the only thing on my menu!
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My fiance is my preferred look, tall, tough, strong, fit, deep voice - although I do love facial hair, and he can't have it for his job. (he's a police officer and they don't allow it where he is)

He's almost perfect.

Oh, I just read the second part of the OP.

Yes, I'm his preferred look. I'm Italian and Irish, green eyes, petite, athletic (he has always dated athletic types, but they were taller than me) He and I were friends before we started dating each other, so we saw a few of each other's gf's and bf's, and we both tell each other that we are each other's ''one.''

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Re: Are You Her Preferred Look?

Interesting.

There's always a physical 'type' of partner that we all prefer (even-though that might not be our ideal).

Out of all the guys I dated, only two were nearly close to what I prefer. What catches my attention are guys with light(color) features (green/blue eyes, blonde/honey-color hair...).
I realize that I can fall very easily for this type of look.

Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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My husband is definitely my preferred look. I do wish he'd invest more time into his appearance and put on nicer clothes, though. I admit that. I love his raw look, though. And his eyes are blue which I'm obsessed with.

I don't think I'm his. He doesn't really have a type or if he does he won't share it or he doesn't even know it himself. It's frustrating, actually. I wish I knew what he liked.
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I'm pretty sure she would "prefer" for me to be taller. I'm 5'11 and she's 5'8, so I'm still taller than her. She just doesn't like wearing 3"+ heels and towering over me. I'd give my left nut to be 6'3. lol
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Interesting.

There's always a physical 'type' of partner that we all prefer (even-though that might not be our ideal).

Out of all the guys I dated, only two were nearly close to what I prefer. What catches my attention are guys with light(color) features (green/blue eyes, blonde/honey-color hair...).
I realize that I can fall very easily for this type of look.
What I'd like to add to my quote is that eventhough I might not date my preferred look, I can still feel attracted if he has a certain attitude/personality which makes me sexually/emotionally attracted to him. As I've always said, his attitude rocks my socks!
Just like he can be my preferred look but he acts like an a*s around me or others. Won't do it for me.

Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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Re: Are You Her Preferred Look?

I am not sure either of us are each other's "preferred" look. She has previously dated some pretty skinny guys and I am more thick built mountain man type.

She is brunette average chest and great ass. I have always had a thing for porcelain skinned blondes with large boobs lol

No denying she is classy and beautiful though
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Re: Are You Her Preferred Look?

I honestly have on clue what my Ws preferred type really is, and my body type has definitely changed from when we first started dating

For the most part, I would say that many of the physical attributes I find attractive my W definitely has.
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I would say I am her preferred look. I'm a tall well built black guy, which is her type. With that said...she does have a thing for much older white men with salt and pepper hair. She says it stems from a crush she had on Dan Rather as a kid. Go figure....I've always got a kick out of it. Because its so unexpected, you really wouldn't think a guy like that would be her type.
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Re: Are You Her Preferred Look?

Based on my wife's comments about other men and movie actors she finds attractive, I'm her type.

She is clever enough though to tell me ones that will flatter me. Still that would be thoughtful of her to do so.
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I have a few different preferred "types", and yes my current boyfriend fits one of those types (the silver fox type).

A person's specific "look" is always something new and different for me, whether or not they fit one of my preferred types. Their face, the exact curves of their body, the way they move through space, the way they carry themselves...these things are like a fingerprint, and I will typically feel a flutter of attraction the first time I see them, then it develops even more over time as I closely examine these individual traits. As I fall in love with someone, these traits will become more and more attractive to me.

So from a flutter of attraction at first sight, to then very strong attraction after a bit of time and good sex and bonding, and suddenly his "type" and his "look" are all that I notice anymore. No one else seems that attractive to me, really. They are, but only in a nice to look at way.

When I am single however...I have strong attraction to so many different people, all the time.

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I'm pretty sure she would "prefer" for me to be taller. I'm 5'11 and she's 5'8, so I'm still taller than her. She just doesn't like wearing 3"+ heels and towering over me. I'd give my left nut to be 6'3. lol
You can have Ol' Arb's 6' 3" frame, but I sure as hell don't want your left nut ~ or for that matter, your right one either!

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Re: Are You Her Preferred Look?

Career has forced me to maintain a pretty boy look and I hate it, have to be well-presented everyday, combed, gelled, shaved, collared shirt. Just my girlfriend's type, yet I can't seem to feel complimented, especially when she compares me to movie actors... bleh! Somehow, just feels like she's complimenting a skin rather than who I am... dunno why though
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Re: Are You Her Preferred Look?

Some great feedback here; its always fascinating to hear how other people live!

I was thinking about my first marriage this morning...or more to the point...how my (then) wife wanted me to look like. Being naive and wet behind the ears I was eager to please her but being a 'thick built mountain man type' (thanks @wolf1974) I was the complete opposite to her hip-hop fantasy. I stopped lifting weights and cut back on eating at a stupidly unhealthy rate just to get that skinny body she seemed to like so much. I allowed her to dress me in overly baggy pants, loud shirts, wacky trainers and caps that would make the Fresh Prince of Bel Air look tame in comparison. Not to mention the body shaving. Oh god. At least twice a week I was expected to make myself smooth all over. Yuk!

Thankfully that first marriage ended in no time, for so many different reasons, but only looking back can I see how silly I was at the time. The folly of youth as they say!
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